How to fill the back seat up

[2wheelingdawg]

I've tried to get the old lady on the feej. She was brought up thinking bikes are death traps for the crazy at heart. I don't ride stupid (she don't know what goes on in the mountains), but she can't get over the fear to even try it. Her friends that ride tell her she will love it. She rode with me a few years ago on my dad's wing. After 10 minutes, she wanted to go back, said she was to scared. If she won't ride a wing, should i just give up and wait until my daughter is big enough to ride with me? I got a Givi trunk with a backrest on there, but she won't even get on.

I thought about taking one of her friends who loves to ride, (hot blond by the way), maybe if common sense doesn't prevail, jealousy will. I haven't even suggested a thong and assless chaps yet either.

 

[kiteman11]

Some folks just don't feel comfortable and never will. My advice would be just to accept it and maybe she will get over it on her own. Does she have good safety gear (pants,jacket,etc.)? If so, maybe preaching the ATGATT rule would help to curb it and show that you can be as safe as possible while having fun. I used to live in Stockbridge myself. Good riding down that way. I used to love riding down towards High Falls and Jackson lake area. If you ever come up my way, pm me and I will ride through the mountains with you. On the hot blonde thing, that's your call. Could open up a whole other can of worms. Sometimes worms are good?

 

[Old Michael]

I thought about taking one of her friends who loves to ride, (hot blond by the way),

Good idea. And while you're at it, tell her she looks fat in her jeans.

And stand ON the freeway at night.

:blink:

 

[madmike2]

Another thought...do your normal rising friends ride 2-up? Here in NorCal, 1/2 (or more) of the riding clan are with pillion. (Check some of the ride reports w/ pictures). Maybe a more social setting would make her more at ease if she got to know other wives & S.O.'s who like to ride, and that safety and enjoyment of the freedom were paramount rather than the excitement of speed.

OTH, if she is that afraid (for many, the dynamics of leaning into a curve is terrifying), or if her mind is set against it, it may be best to leave it alone. I agree with kiteman, the "friend/Hot Blonde/jealousy" situation is a door I wouldn't open.

[SIZE=8pt](The "lovely and beautiful EX-MRs.MM2" was absolutely anti-motorcycle. She vibrated fear and loathing whenever I'd even look at one. That was NOT one of the reasons behind her current status of "ex", but one of the up-sides to the tragic dissolution is that I'm back on motorcycles.)[/SIZE]

 

[jekirby]

I agree, it may be better just to be understanding and accept it. Nobody likes to feel pushed. It may happen over time. I don't know about your wife, but my wife seems to feel a little out of sorts if a woman rider goes along with the guys, let alone ride with me. I am talking about a good friend of both of us and someone who is a little....well....to butch for most anyone. That would take some of the enjoyment out of it for me to have her to sulk about.

My situation is a little different. My wife used to go on short rides and liked it as long as her backside held out. When our helmets were to be retired due to old age and I showed interest in riding in more than tee shirt, jeans and tennies, she announced that she was done as my brother in law still rides with his first helmet he ever bought and jackets were just too uncomfortable and looked goofy. When I started riding, my car sat unused for weeks at a time, but when I got married my riding fell off greatly. I am now back to letting the gas lush sit and ride as much as possible so I wanted to up my protection level. She has said that she will only ride with me if she can wear her old helmet and we do the tee shirt, jeans and tennies together. So I will see how time affects this.

 

[TCMike]

Feel for ya man, my wife is the exact same way. She had an uncle die on a bike when she was a kid. She says she might try it again when our kids are older, so we don't leave them parentless in their early years.

 

[stormrider]

My wife and I are both in health care and have spent to many hours in the Trauma bay.

She cannot get past that and subsequently has never and will never ride with me.

I make sure that the time I spend on the bike is tempered and as close to equal, as I can, with quality time I spend with her.

Her not riding is a fact of my life and I accept it and work with it.

 

[jmdaniel]

My wife and I are both in health care and have spent to many hours in the Trauma bay.She cannot get past that and subsequently has never and will never ride with me.

I hear ya; the wife has been a Level 1 Trauma Center ER nurse for 15 years. No riding for her, and that's fine.

 

[feejer222]

My wife loves it......(easy tiger!). If I sold the bike she would divorce me. I can get her to have a word if you like.

 

[ponyfool]

Tell your wife that marriage is a lot like having Comcast cable services. For example, many people have Comcast for TV, Internet and Telephone, and are happy customers. Then, one day, they may realize that DirecTV may be better for the TV aspect. They're still a satisfied Comcast customer for Internet and Telephone, but for the TV part, they are now a happy customer of the alternative provider.

In this case, you are still happy with her "other services", but for the bike riding and whatever may happen after a good ride, you're simply seeking an alternative service provider.

That should do the trick!

 

[worldbound4now]

I hear ya; the wife has been a Level 1 Trauma Center ER nurse for 15 years. No riding for her, and that's fine.

Funny... I've been a trauma nurse for 9 years and love to ride. Seeing the trauma patients just reinforces ATGATT.

 

[Old Michael]

Tell your wife that marriage is a lot like having Comcast cable services. For example, many people have Comcast for TV, Internet and Telephone, and are happy customers. Then, one day, they may realize that DirecTV may be better for the TV aspect. They're still a satisfied Comcast customer for Internet and Telephone, but for the TV part, they are now a happy customer of the alternative provider.
In this case, you are still happy with her "other services", but for the bike riding and whatever may happen after a good ride, you're simply seeking an alternative service provider.

That should do the trick!

:lol:

:blink:

...I'm gonna read that again.

 

[Kevin Daly]

Dude bikes are dangeruous and the people who ride them are risk taking fools! She might as well be a born again christian ... No offense Bible thumpers

Honestly, my wife has never gotten on back and never will and there's jes no changin som tings

 

[MojaveFJR]

Last GF was like , "F*CK NO. I am not getting on those death traps".

The new GF , "her loss my gain".

We have been on several two hundred plus mile rides which have been very enjoyable to share with her.

The new GF wants her own bike. However she has stated, 'I reserve the right and sole privelidge to ride with you when I so choose".

Must be nice to have options.

Don't know how to tell you to solve this problem. Some people have been brainwashed since birth, bike are bad, bikse are death traps. Even though stats show more people die on horses, biicycle and in cars then those in motorcycle accidents every year.

 

[timk]

I started my wife out right, we began dating on my H2. Over the past 34 years she's well into her second 100k on the back seat. On a particularly nasty forecast 2 years ago, we had planned a ride to Maggie Valley NC. Anyway, after 560 miles,all in a deluge, she was ready again at 6am.

 

[Geezer]

As long as she doesn't try to get you to give up the bike, no big deal. If you wife is the jealous type, then pass on the hot blonde.

 

[Caba]

My wife won't sit in the back seat either! But I'm a little luckier, she grew up riding bikes, her father owned a yammy dealer for a while and raced enduro (until he was 60), both her parens rode touring bikes, etc.

She won't ride pillion because of being a little bit of a control freak, but she occasionally steals my bike! :blink:

Hey, maybe I'm not the luckier one! :angry2:

Damnit, I gotta get her one of her own!!!

 

[Caba]

Oh, and as for the hot blonde on the back to make her jealous..... :huh:

I would recommend that you stay away from that! (don't ask me how I know) ......not a good scene. :nono:

 

[keithaba]

I've been trying to convince mine just to ride a scooter.

I have to say, not too long ago, I rode on the back of an FJR, and it is wierd not having any control.

The lack of handlebars and footpegs to stabalize your weight made me feel very uneasy.

My plan, start her out on some small scooter, then get her a burgman.