I have a similar mounting setup and go with gravity feed. Normal process for me is to go about 100 miles, then open the valve for a few minutes (one song on the radio). to bring the level of the aux tank down so it doesn't expand and dump any fuel. Then go to 190 miles,( equals approximately the range of my aux tank) open the valve, and leave it open until the next fuel stop.
By transferring early, you don't have to worry about burn rate vs fill rate, and the fuel pump is always well submerged, keeping it cool. Running any tank nearly dry is hard on internal fuel pumps, as they rely on the fuel for cooling. I've never had any draining issues.
I also recommend doing the ball-ectomy to the fuel cap, and keeping it and all the overflow and vent lines clear and clean,