I try to always pull up to the right side of a pump (pump to my left). If it's going to be a splash and go I'll pull in close enough to the pump to operate the pump while seated. I will put the side stand down with the bike still in gear (actually use the side stand to kill the engine) so the bike won't fall when reaching for the nozzle or operating the pump. In that case I'll fill it while holding the bike vertical.
If I need to stretch my legs, then I'll still pull up to the right side of the pump, but I'll intentionally park far away from the pump to leave plenty of room to my left to dismount and move around between the bike and pump. Bike goes on the side stand, so the tank is tilted towards me and the pump, and I fill until the fuel starts backing up into the filler neck.
One time, out of curiosity, after doing this I then put the bike up onto the center stand and tried to get more fuel into it, but couldn't get more than a few ounces in. Definitely not worth the hassle of using the center-stand, IMO.
I always reset my #1 trip meter at fills. I also use (and reset) the gas tank monitor on my Zumo which I have set for 240 miles for the pop-up reminder.
Since the bike is still in gear, I can start the bike by flipping up the side-stand and pulling in the clutch. Makes for a quick getaway, and it's one less neutral to first gear kerchunk for the gear dogs to have to endure. I'll typically start a stone cold bike in neutral for less load on the starter motor, but when the engine is warm it is not much extra load to start it in gear.
[edit] I've never heard of anyone self-immolating by fueling while sitting on the bike. Could it happen? Sure, I guess. Could get hit by a meteor too.