I have friends whom are ultra-neat freaks. I am not one of them, but I do like the bike to be mostly clean. When I am on a multi-day ride, the FJR will be as dirty as it can be.....bugs, rain, occasional gravel roads. Big deal, I'm riding it, and it's going to get dirty.
That said, there's something very satisfying about coming home from a 150-to-500 mile day, spent on twisty roads, and putting the bike on the centerstand in the garage. Next step, go into the house and fill up my Bubba mug with ice, Crown Royal Black and 7-up and/or orange pineapple juice. Out to the garage, and tune the radio to my favorite station or a ball game, and wash the bike with a rag, a bucket of water, and a micro-fiber cloth to dry. Take your time. Enjoy the thoughts of your ride earlier that day. Great way to end the day, and I have a clean bike in the end.
On the other hand, I've come home from a ride too tired, or have something else to attend to right away, and the bike will sit for days all filthy and grungy. Doesn't bother me that way, either.
No, you're not abusing your bike. You're finding out what enjoying a real ride is all about. Good for you.