Help this selfish male understand!!!!

[radman]

Is this unusual on her part? Pregnancy does things to the hormonal balance in women we can't even begin to imagine. We are familiar, however, with hormonal changes of our own, the remembrance of which may help you empathize. Think of the first time you ever had a crush on someone-preferably with someone who never, for whatever reason, had the same feelings for you. Recall how heavy the emotions were? How it consumed your entire being? Yet how it eventually waned, and was forgotten until the next one, or some other all consuming event? Now think of that rising and waning a couple times a day, or several times a week, or 5 times a minute. Thats what is happening to the wifey, and it can be evil or benign-the hormones don't really seem to care one way or another. The urge to kill can be just as strong as the urge to eat a gallon of Ben&Jerrys, or laugh then cry then laugh until the rush passes. The strength of these emotional typhoons is evident in stories the media love to exploit-Susan Smith, Andrea Yates, etc etc. The worst part of it is the fact that no two women are alike-the changes vary as much as every other aspect of being human, so that one must do his best to understand that the woman isn't actually trying to get on your case-the chemicals are doing it, and she's no more responsible than someone with PTSD, or Tourette's, or any one of a dozen strange mental rearrangements. I say be cool, let this pass, and perhaps tomorrow she'll be better able to discuss this. Or, and believe me, this isn't going to be the last time, you may have to let this one go. Things are gonna change mightily, might as well accept it, and realize that this is what parenthood is about, sacrifice and a total giving of oneself to the process. Or, get out now, and give the child a shot at a good upbringing. If this sounds cynical, or hard, so be it-consider this the first test, maybe, and it's up to you as to the curve you'll be graded on. Those of us that are fathers know what I mean, and we all put a lot of stuff on hold for the time being. Don't wait for the arrival of your new project for life to start thinking like "Dad". Think back to this time the first time you hear the word-hopefully, you'll wonder "what the **** was I thinking?"

Father of two, oldest of seven

 

[650cent]

Two words: pre-nup. You got one didn't you?

Bill

 

[zzzzip]

Is this unusual on her part? Pregnancy does things to the hormonal balance in women we can't even begin to imagine. We are familiar, however, with hormonal changes of our own, the remembrance of which may help you empathize. Think of the first time you ever had a crush on someone-preferably with someone who never, for whatever reason, had the same feelings for you. Recall how heavy the emotions were? How it consumed your entire being? Yet how it eventually waned, and was forgotten until the next one, or some other all consuming event? Now think of that rising and waning a couple times a day, or several times a week, or 5 times a minute. Thats what is happening to the wifey, and it can be evil or benign-the hormones don't really seem to care one way or another. The urge to kill can be just as strong as the urge to eat a gallon of Ben&Jerrys, or laugh then cry then laugh until the rush passes. The strength of these emotional typhoons is evident in stories the media love to exploit-Susan Smith, Andrea Yates, etc etc. The worst part of it is the fact that no two women are alike-the changes vary as much as every other aspect of being human, so that one must do his best to understand that the woman isn't actually trying to get on your case-the chemicals are doing it, and she's no more responsible than someone with PTSD, or Tourette's, or any one of a dozen strange mental rearrangements. I say be cool, let this pass, and perhaps tomorrow she'll be better able to discuss this. Or, and believe me, this isn't going to be the last time, you may have to let this one go. Things are gonna change mightily, might as well accept it, and realize that this is what parenthood is about, sacrifice and a total giving of oneself to the process. Or, get out now, and give the child a shot at a good upbringing. If this sounds cynical, or hard, so be it-consider this the first test, maybe, and it's up to you as to the curve you'll be graded on. Those of us that are fathers know what I mean, and we all put a lot of stuff on hold for the time being. Don't wait for the arrival of your new project for life to start thinking like "Dad". Think back to this time the first time you hear the word-hopefully, you'll wonder "what the **** was I thinking?"
Father of two, oldest of seven

Wow, Rad... you really know how to get in touch with your feminine side!! -_-

B)

 

[Scab]

Rad, ****, take the tiara off!

 

[FJR1300Jeff]

Don't wait for the arrival of your new project for life to start thinking like "Dad". Think back to this time the first time you hear the word-hopefully, you'll wonder "what the **** was I thinking?"WOW Rad....I really liked what you said......I'll try and impliment this now insteat of waiting until my new project comes along... <_<

 

[James Burleigh]

Just bustin' your chops, Rad. I got a wife, Fang, of 24 years and three kids.

With regard to the thread issue, Fang and I don't tell each other what we can and can't do. That stopped about 15 years ago, and helps explain why we're still married. Instead, we ask for what we need. It's all we can control.

Jb

 

[twowheelnut]

Pout a lot and be a ******* to live with, it's what I do! I learned it from my kids! :blink:

BWAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! :rofl:

 

[Hit the Road Jack]

Quick, somebody call a Wambulance for this poor fellow!

I agree w/ the Mother's Day suggestions! Part of the price of admission to the procreation fair!

 

[FJRSTAR]

Is this unusual on her part? Pregnancy does things to the hormonal balance in women we can't even begin to imagine. We are familiar, however, with hormonal changes of our own, the remembrance of which may help you empathize. Think of the first time you ever had a crush on someone-preferably with someone who never, for whatever reason, had the same feelings for you. Recall how heavy the emotions were? How it consumed your entire being? Yet how it eventually waned, and was forgotten until the next one, or some other all consuming event? Now think of that rising and waning a couple times a day, or several times a week, or 5 times a minute. Thats what is happening to the wifey, and it can be evil or benign-the hormones don't really seem to care one way or another. The urge to kill can be just as strong as the urge to eat a gallon of Ben&Jerrys, or laugh then cry then laugh until the rush passes. The strength of these emotional typhoons is evident in stories the media love to exploit-Susan Smith, Andrea Yates, etc etc. The worst part of it is the fact that no two women are alike-the changes vary as much as every other aspect of being human, so that one must do his best to understand that the woman isn't actually trying to get on your case-the chemicals are doing it, and she's no more responsible than someone with PTSD, or Tourette's, or any one of a dozen strange mental rearrangements. I say be cool, let this pass, and perhaps tomorrow she'll be better able to discuss this. Or, and believe me, this isn't going to be the last time, you may have to let this one go. Things are gonna change mightily, might as well accept it, and realize that this is what parenthood is about, sacrifice and a total giving of oneself to the process. Or, get out now, and give the child a shot at a good upbringing. If this sounds cynical, or hard, so be it-consider this the first test, maybe, and it's up to you as to the curve you'll be graded on. Those of us that are fathers know what I mean, and we all put a lot of stuff on hold for the time being. Don't wait for the arrival of your new project for life to start thinking like "Dad". Think back to this time the first time you hear the word-hopefully, you'll wonder "what the **** was I thinking?"
Father of two, oldest of seven

Dang Rad,

You said everything I wanted to say to him but much better. I experience that mindset exactly. I am with the same woman I fell in love with as a sophomore in high school (1977). We have four kids. Lots of bumps but we are together and moving forward... hopefully till death do us part.

 

[FJRSTAR]

Don't wait for the arrival of your new project for life to start thinking like "Dad". Think back to this time the first time you hear the word-hopefully, you'll wonder "what the **** was I thinking?"WOW Rad....I really liked what you said......I'll try and impliment this now insteat of waiting until my new project comes along... <_<

To sum up what Rad said... in my own words, having this child will change your life forever and hers. It changed for her when she became pregnant. She is having this child with you. Do not take that lightly. There will be plenty of time later for what you feel you need to do to help cope with life. Right now, she needs you. She may also feel that if something bad were to happen to you while riding blah, blah, blah......

You may have already had plenty of time to do what you want, now it is time to settle down a little. Enjoy it. There is so much to experience. Have fun. Do not hold this against her. One more thing, welcome to Rosey Palm. :yahoo:

Rosey: Pinkish Red

Palm: Inner portion of your hand

or

Rosey Palm: The imaginary girlfriend of every guy who has only been serviced by himself.

Rosey Palm is every guy's girlfriend when they are single or married and pregnant. She speaks perfect sign language and she's a dirty **** that'll do anything you want her to. :lol:

 

[huk finn]

does wife have any relatives or old friends far away that she's always wanted to visit???? get her a plane ticket on the same dates you want to take your trip !!!

 

[JimLor]

Life is about priorities. Decide yours and go from there. You just don't want to look back on your life and mumble, "I should have...," or "I shouldn't have..."

Lorie and the kids are the best thing that ever happened to me and that's where my priorities begin - choose yours carefully and good luck!

 

[05fjrBluedevil]

Yep,

It only will get more interesting!

Maybe if you buy her some flowers a few times and just walk around looking all depressed she might let you go!

NOT! :lol:

Good luck, I have been grounded to oneovernight trip a year, so since i have already taken three, I am can you say.

Stuck, they just do not understand, so you better get use to it!

I hope you have pictures to remind you of how those 3 dirt biking trips felt :lol:

Congrats on having a child though, it is a great time in your life.

 

[v65]

The stars aligned for me today. Just got fresh rubber on the Feej, the weather is supposed to be awesome today, kids going to school, wife going to work, and even the dog was going to the vet (snip, snip!) for the day. Absolutely no commitments for the entire day makes for a great day of riding :yahoo: I was thinking 400 miles down into PA to try out some twistys I read about here.

Then at 7:30AM my seven year old stood on the steps and said my stomach doesn't feel good and proceeded to puke all over the stairs and floor. Now I am at home with a somewhat sick seven year old, and I can gaurantee sometime today I will be playing Barbie Swan Lake (with a purple tiara, I refuse to wear the pink one :lol: ) instead of rolling on the throttle. You know what, I couldn't care one bit. Because of all the extra-curricular stuff she is involved in, this gives me a chance to spend some time with my daughter I haven't had in a while :clapping:

My advice, come back and read this thread in three years and see what you think then.

 

[Cdogman]

Threaten her with no sex, that'll make her change her ways! :grin:

yeah! that'll work. threaten to not let her give you any bj's too while you're at it!

That is EXACTLY what I do and it works every time

the second marriage always bests the first.

********, #3 was great, #1 was sexy #4 was a Phukmonster #5 was a bitch #2 I forgot about..... Oh Yea, she was a bitch

Now my GF, she is cool and I have already told her she can live at my house as long as I got alot of sex, and she keeps the place clean. At first she protested, but then I explained to her that all the money I spend on her is MORE than a decent maid and a couple hookers

She gets it. I have also told her I will never get married again and she is cool with that

After 5 Wives, I no longer care about being PC, I is who I is so like it or leave and find another place to live. I am nice as hell to her, but we do have an understanding **I hope she never sees this or I am in BIG trouble** :dribble:

 

[Scab]

********, #3 was great, #1 was sexy #4 was a Phukmonster #5 was a bitch #2 I forgot about..... Oh Yea, she was a bitch
Now my GF, she is cool and I have already told her she can live at my house as long as I got alot of sex, and she keeps the place clean. At first she protested, but then I explained to her that all the money I spend on her is MORE than a decent maid and a couple hookers

She gets it. I have also told her I will never get married again and she is cool with that

After 5 Wives, I no longer care about being PC, I is who I is so like it or leave and find another place to live. I am nice as hell to her, but we do have an understanding **I hope she never sees this or I am in BIG trouble** :dribble:

...saving quote for future blackmail scheme...

 

[Cdogman]

...saving quote for future blackmail scheme...

:assassin: LMAO

Dont you dare :blink:

 

[radman]

...saving quote for future blackmail scheme...

I would say that, after reading his post,you couldn't blackmail him if you had videos and color commentary. Having been through 5 wives is roughly akin to surviving BUD/S....

 

[Mike-H]

Ahhh marriage.....you know what they say....."it's the f@#king you get ....for the f@#king you got" :derisive: .... :lol: .....

 

[Pjturbo]

Why did you get married? Or didn't you bother to read the instructions first.

Phil