It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older,
it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of
housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this,
try not to yell at them. Some are oversensitive, and there's
nothing worse than an oversensitive, aging woman.
My name is Wally. Let me relate how I handled the situation with
my wife, Kim. When I retired a few years ago, it became
necessary for Kim to get a full-time job along with her
part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits
that we needed. Shortly after she started working, I noticed she
was beginning to show her age.
I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she
gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she
almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before
she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to
take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the
table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club and
watch the lingerie show, so eating out is not a reasonable
solution. I'm ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now
it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours
after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her
several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I
know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate
her to get them done before she goes to bed.
I think another symptom of aging is complaining. For example,
she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay
the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em
for better or worse, right? So I just smile and offer
encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even
three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also
remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't
hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is
one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest
periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished
mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I
tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly
squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And, as long as she
is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support
Kim. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is
easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it
impossible! Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women
get as they get older. However, guys, even if you just use a
little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because
of this article, I will consider that writing it was well
worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.
Signed,
Wally
it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of
housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this,
try not to yell at them. Some are oversensitive, and there's
nothing worse than an oversensitive, aging woman.
My name is Wally. Let me relate how I handled the situation with
my wife, Kim. When I retired a few years ago, it became
necessary for Kim to get a full-time job along with her
part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits
that we needed. Shortly after she started working, I noticed she
was beginning to show her age.
I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she
gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she
almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before
she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to
take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the
table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club and
watch the lingerie show, so eating out is not a reasonable
solution. I'm ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now
it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours
after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her
several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I
know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate
her to get them done before she goes to bed.
I think another symptom of aging is complaining. For example,
she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay
the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em
for better or worse, right? So I just smile and offer
encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even
three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also
remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't
hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is
one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest
periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished
mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I
tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly
squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And, as long as she
is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support
Kim. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is
easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it
impossible! Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women
get as they get older. However, guys, even if you just use a
little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because
of this article, I will consider that writing it was well
worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.
Signed,
Wally
