I keep fighting it, but I have a feeling I'll end up with the Heli bridge after all, assuming I get settled in with the bike and keep it.
Still really unhappy with the reach to the ground and the Saddlemen seat. Another story, but on bad surfaces like loose gravel or sand, I won't want to be paddling this thing around.
With the top heavy weight of my 07' FJR, I wasn't happy either on tippy toes going on gravel and grass. For that I had Soupy adjustable dog bones and an adjustable kick stand installed. Wanting to keep as much road clearance as possible I only lower the bike 5/8". I then lowered the triple tree a 1/2" which brought back the rack/trail geometry (most would not do that and it is not necessary). With that, I can almost flat foot when solo and gives me acceptable handling in the bike. When loaded and my passenger I can then flat foot, which isn't necessary but I like it with the extra weight and a passenger on board.
The bike came with the Helibar bridge. As pointed out by Bill, the bridge puts the bars up and back, plus has adjustment for the angle forward or back. Forward will give the widest grip and back the shortest width between grips. I like the full forward, which provide the widest distance between grips, not to get the width but to take out some of the back, because unlike most I prefer to lean forward. However, this position doesn't agree with my wrist, so I usually have it set farthest back, which puts the grip width about factory and is kinder to my wrist.
Don't know if any of this helps, I would think lowering the bike a bit and using the bridge may be just enough for you to really like your FJR. The other advantage to the adjustable lowering links and the adjustable Helibar bridge is the key word 'adjustable'. Although I haven't readjusted the lowering links yet, now that I am used to the FJR, I think I could easy take it back to factory height and have confidence on dirt, gravel, and grass. Often it is only a condition, of the rider conditioning to the bike. So, I have learned and gained the confidence to ride the FJR and don't even think about the top heavy weight when going into or out of challenging surfaces, rather I pay attention to the surface like I would with any 2 wheel vehicle.