UPDATE:
SUCCESS!!
The salvage hydraulic unit assembly I bought on EBay from Imperial Sportbikes (thanks to RadioHowie for the heads up!) for $269 seems to work as it should. Based on hydraulic unit test #2 (brake pedal now returns force) and a successful test ride activating front and rear ABS, I am a happy camper. In all, including the unnecessary extra failsafe relay and the extra salvage ABS ECU, etc., this saved me about $1100 compared to the cost of buying a new one and having the dealer install it. Yamaha corporate wouldn't help out with the cost in any way.
The installation was mostly a piece of cake. Unfasten two nuts that hold the complete assembly in place and disconnect the electrical and hydraulic connections, pull it out without drama, pop in the replacement assembly, reconnect everything, bleed the system, do the hydraulic unit test, bleed once again, do a test ride, done. Snafus included 1) having a devil of a time re-fitting the plastic tray that lies under the seat and holds the engine ECU and rests above the ABS ECU...I have no idea how the electrical connectors were supposed to go in and be out of the way far enough to get the tray back in place. It's still a little canted at the rear, but to hell with it, 2) breaking a few of the plastic rivet thingies, and 3) ending up with a few allen head screws that I haven't been able to find the holes in the plastics for.
I had a couple of 8mm SpeedBleeders left from a previous bike that I sold before installing them, they fit the FJR so I installed one in the front left caliper and the other in the clutch. I had to order the LL model for the right front caliper and a different model for the rear caliper, but I'm now a believer. Anybody want to buy a used MiteyVac?
Thanks to everyone on the Forum who gave me guidance and encouragement. I hope my saga is finished now, knock on wood. If anybody wants a talk-through if they do it themselves, just PM me and we can get together online or on the phone.