So if i install a relay wired to send a ground to the ECU then everything would work fine ???
No, not the right thing to do at all. With that, you'd be able to ride away with the sidestand down, and the first left turn's gonna be a bitch! Grounding that pin means the ECU would ignore the actual sidestand/neutral switch positions.
In a car, a remote starter has to do two things: turn on the ignition, and energize the starter until the motor's running.
In a Gen-I FJR, it has to do a third thing: connect the blue/yellow and white/blue wires together.
You can do that with a standard automotive relay. Take the 12-volts output from your remote, the one for ignition, not starter, and connect it to 85 or 86 on the relay. Ground the other one of those two terminals. Now you have the relay energized when the bike turns on. Now tap (not cut, but tap) the white/blue and blue/yellow wires, hook one to 30 and one to 87. That closes the circuit when the relay energizes, just as if the key had been turned on, the way God and Yamaha meant it to be.
Now your remote should work, and the safety circuit for the sidestand is still in place. If you deploy the sidestand while in gear the bike will shut off. It should also work normally with normal key operation. (Which, by the way, is why you don't cut those two wires, but tap them. If you cut them, the bike won't run
except with the remote start.)
living in Quebec Canada yet buying my baby 2nd hand from Ontario, i would think it is a Canadian bike
If you have a plain key, that doesn't matter. I don't know when, but at some point Canadian bikes got an immobilizer system. Key with big head, bike won't run if it's not the right key, even if the key being used fits the lock. Your remote wouldn't work if the key was not at the bike, and yours does, once you connect those two wires. And even if Canadian bikes at the time
did have immobilizers, lots of guys crossed the border to get their bikes cheaper in the US, so buying it used in Canada doesn't necessarily make it Canadian.
Oh well, i now know how to dismantle the front end !!
Have a look
here for future reference.