After reading everything here it sounds like he still has both bikes but im not quite sure..I think if you follow most of those suggestions that you will get the hang of this bike in no time at all.
With that gravel driveway I think one of the best suggestions is haveing a friend ride the bike to the good practice spot. Not only will you avoid the gravel but you will have someone to help pick it up if it falls.
Watch that vidio of how to pick up the bike.
Lay it down on a soft thik blanket with your friends help and then pick it up.
Try that a few times.
A riding boot with a thick sole and decent size heal will help your confidence starting and stopping, its like lowering the bike another inch.
Double check the seat hight.
Leave off the saddle bags for weight, and even ride with a half tank of gas for the weight and possible tip over.
A couple of hours of doing this in a large parking lot will do wonders all around.
One more thing that wasnt mentioned is that when you get to that parking lot look it over real good for any broken pavement or sandy spots.
Good luck and I bet you keep that bike.
Vandy
I still have the Honda. Pic?
I like the FJR. I am not in love with it (yet). I like the Honda but I would like a newer bike that has a bit (just a wee bit) more power and reliability (not that it hasn't been reliable).
The reasons to keep it are because it is a nice bike and it can do all I want it to do and more. I won't need a cage to make a trip and I will have more fun and emit less carbon. In addition, a quick sell will result in a loss of pride and a hit to the wallet.
The reason to sell are because I took too big of a next step, the bike is tall and heavy and hard to maneuver at slow speeds (currently), it has more hp then I could every really want nor justify. Selling it now is better then selling it after a few more drops. Hell, I don't want to kill ME.
But, please note that my issues are at low speed. And I am far from a speed freak. Once the bike is rolling I am Ok.
Pride? Hell I wouldn't be writing you guys and gals if that was an issue. I think you can get a bucket of Pride on Amazon just by clicking on it. And I hear it is even cheaper on eBay. I can get some more if need be.
I paid cash for the bike. I got the title in hand. It is mine. I will drop it on the right side and even out the scratches if that is what it takes to get me more confident on the bike. It doesn't have anything to do with money. It is all about safety and fun. The goal was to buy a bike that could do all the things that the Honda could not. And I took a leap of faith. Everyone said I would get used to it. No one said that I wouldn't. I am Ok with dropping the bike in gravel or the parking lot. I just don't want to crash and slide nor put anyone else in danger.
I am taller then many (5'10" with 30" inseam and 30" waist) and I guess I am the lightest person in the world at 130 lbs. I can jump up and down on the seat of the bike and damned if I can feel the shock compress at all. And the seat is in the low position (quadruple checked) and Spencer modified my seat (lower and narrower). I am a short legged no *** guy. I accept it. I am the guy that can fit through tight spaces.
And any thought of increasing my weight thru more proteins or carbs or butter or bacon has been tried without success. And I am 50. In the 10th grade, 34 years ago, I wrestled 105 lbs. I had a hard time making the weight back then (keeping it up). Our 98 lb guy was really good so I got 105. You can do the math and the only way that I can increase my weight instantly is change in my pockets or a backpack full of gravel.
When I was 40 I took a leap of faith I bought 5 acres and then designed and built my house out of a bunch of wood and the help of some friends. How hard can it be? Wait for the book or the movie. I did it and I would never do it again (nor do I have to). There were no injuries to report in the whole process except for splinters from the OSB.
I really appreciate the honest feedback and input from you guys and gals.
And I have opened up lines of communications with a biker friend of mine called Skittle Boy (who actually has tatoo's and the ability to gain weight - not that he needs to) who just might let me off the hook.
If I haven't said it before, I am pretty sure (how is that for definate) that I can master the skills needed for the FJR AE. But in the end, will the weight of the bike and height of the bike keep me in perpetual doubt?
I will gladly accept any assistance from anyone out there in the area that can help.
Art