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Does that mean he's not a *****?



What about me?
This calls for a Poll!! Where's ol Kirkfriedchicken?

Good luck with the process your going through Evilmedic! I can say that riding with Scab at EOM he is a different rider than he was pre-crash. I was impressed that he made the trip, having said that he is one tough mofo! :D And maybe not all there, if ya know what i mean? :hyper:

JW

 
Does that mean he's not a *****?What about me?
This calls for a Poll!! Where's ol Kirkfriedchicken?

Good luck with the process your going through Evilmedic! I can say that riding with Scab at EOM he is a different rider than he was pre-crash. I was impressed that he made the trip, having said that he is one tough mofo! :D And maybe not all there, if ya know what i mean? :hyper:

JW
Ok Kirk got his *** kicked so I did the poll for your *** kicking pleasure clicky to place your vote

 
Thanks for the great replies everyone.

After going out to the garage and hanging out in there for a little while and moving the bike out of the back(parked it really tight so no jagoffs would steal while I was in San Diego) I just said **** it and put my **** on and rode. There wasn't much traffic out so I took it for a nice ride w/ a comfort stop at my firehouse, only to find out 4 cars had been broken into today <_< .

The ride was actually better than I had planned, other than a light sprinkle. The main problem I must've had is the fear of getting hurt again. This year I've been an Er Pt 4 times!

1 minor Fjr accident w/ gravel. 1 concussion from gravitationally enhanced stair descent. 1 ruptured eardrum from a freak accident at work(tomorrow I find out if/when surgical repair is to occur) and my last accident where a trip to the Trauma ward ensued, so my luck hasn't been spectacular this year, t say the least. Not to mention a little bout w/ depression after the accident, it all just started weighing on me, especially the loss of hearing. Of all the senses I would give up that was the last one I would choose. So after losing my hearing and my summer due to FJR accident, I really felt lost for a few weeks.

Luckily, I realized it :dribble: and started focusing on my other hobbies to take my fcus off what was one minor problem in the big picture and one major problem that I have no control overwhatsoever. So I made lemonade and did my best to sweeten it! Problem #1 has been solved and #2 may have some sort of resolution w/ surgery soon, so unless I'm dead or impotent, it'll all work out somehow and I gotta make the best it.

 
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I didn't read all the previous advice- internet advice is worth what you paid for it. For me, I only ride when I am fearful. You are in the right frame of mind to ride. When I lose my fear, then I will toss the keys back. IMHO!!

 
After my getoff, I was apprehensive...too apprehensive, too many what ifs and trying too hard to watch everything at once. It kinda sucked for a bit but I rode at every opportunity, only I made sure that it was an always an easy relaxing ride while I felt that way. With time in the saddle, the feelings faded and I again started to feel one with the bike. Still sometimes my gut doesn't feel right about it, so I still go but make sure to make it a calm, easy ride.

Take your time, it will feel good again.

 
Okay, here's the deal. I wrecked my bike july 11th, bought a gorgeous 2005 on October 2nd and rode it 1100 miles home. The next 2 weeks were problem laden timewise, 1st I wasn't able to register her til Oct 9th and left for San Diego Oct 12th, meanwhile I ad a few shifts in between. I'm sitting here today wanting to ride but for some reason I'm hesitating to even look at her. Before the accident I woulda just hopped on and said "fug it" now I'm running all sorts of "what if?" scenarios <_<
I know I have a lot of work to do on her, as fr as putting in farkles rom old FJR and whatnot and that keeps runnig through my head too. Not riding her until I'm done farkling her up.

My question is this, does it sound like I'm a *****, is this normal after the kinda accident I had and not riding for almost 3 months afterwards, or am I mixing my priorities up(farkle first/ride later)? :unsure:

I hate evaluating myself, it's usaully nothing and read too much into it!

Though I haven't read everybodies reply (it may already be covered), I've learned that what your feeling is as normal as it gets when you finally reach your mortality. I personally discovered that learning exactly what caused the accident and how I can avoid that particular scenerio again helped me overcome that fear. Essentially, I asked myself, "What did I learn from that accident". It took me a month or two to over come my fear, but keep at it, know what happened, and learn from it. You'll eventually be back to your old self with the comfort of added wisdom.

Wish you the best.

 
Make a plan to get out and ride. Do it on a day when you have plenty of time so you will be relaxed. Do it at a time when the traffic is light. Do it on a road that you are familiar and comfortable with. Then do it.

Edit: Um, nevermind, I see that you have already been out there.

 
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Sounds like your plan for farkling is a good strategy: being around the bike in a non-threatening situation. Pretty soon you'll need to do short rides to test various farkles which is also a good thing: concentrating on evaluating the farkle might help siphon off some of the nervousness about being on the bike. Your bike should be a source of joy. If it isn't, give it time until it is again.

Looking through all these posts, I think it's safe to say that we're all pulling for you, so you're the only one being harsh on yourself :)

 
Well, once again I'm outside the normal distribution curve.When racing mx/sx you often crash. Hard. Have scars and medical to prove.

But you get right back up, (if you can) and try that double again; the one you just crashed your body on.

..and if you can't get up right away, you take time to heal, then go right back to it.

I know of what you speak, I'm having a bad case of '******* deer' are everywheer (bad pun intended) but I know the only way, for me, to 'get over it' is to ride, just ride. As miles and time go on, aversive reaction fades, confidence returns, and once again I'm truly back in the saddle again.

Hope this helps, it was not written just to be devils advocate. I say do what works for you. You'll figure it out. :rolleyes:
I'm an ex dirt devil MX'er too (loooong time ago). And while I can see what you say here has some merit, you know, like climbing back in the saddle right away is the best medicine, there is a MAJOR difference between the worst crashes on the MX track and even some seemingly innocuous ones on the road: You almost never die on the track.

Now I don't know the particulars to EM's crash, but any crash on the street involving those 4 (or more) wheeled menaces we lump into the "cage" variety has to put a little of the fear of death into ya'. Broken bones hurt a lot, but they do heal. You only get one chance at that death thing.

 
He was attacked by killer q-tip!

geeez i hate when that happens

i think you did the right thing, just go ahead and get on and ride....that's what my brother did after his near fatal crash 2 years ago. BUT he was kind of a puss, he started back riding on a burgman scooter LOL

 
when something like this happens in someone life it stays inside the brain and the brain stays on red alert like something is going to happen . Time will heel it ,just lay back awhile you will know when it time to go .

 
I know of what you speak, I'm having a bad case of '******* deer' are everywheer (bad pun intended) but I know the only way, for me, to 'get over it' is to ride, just ride. As miles and time go on, aversive reaction fades, confidence returns, and once again I'm truly back in the saddle again.
I think there are 2 parts to "getting over it". One is the overall uneasiness of getting back on the bike and riding. That gets better before very long. The second part is the obstacle or location that was part of the wreck. I don't think that ever gets better. For example, Scab, Carver, myself and others got back on the bike and the jitters eventually go away. My guess is that when Scab goes through the intersection where he went down and sees the 4x4 sign post that busted up his ribs, he'll get a shiver. Seeing deer now always reminds me of the strike.
 
My question is this, does it sound like I'm a *****, is this normal after the kinda accident I had and not riding for almost 3 months afterwards, or am I mixing my priorities up(farkle first/ride later)? :unsure:
You are what you eat. :lol:

I went some time without wanting to ride after a bad scare. I guess that makes me a ***** too if you are one for taking a break. You'll come back to it, or you won't. Either way, it's just a choice. Riding bikes doesn't give us balls...it just crowds them.

 
My guess is that when Scab goes through the intersection where he went down and sees the 4x4 sign post that busted up his ribs, he'll get a shiver.
My case is a little strange, I guess. Going back to that spot is more surreal. I still have no memory of what happened, so I have a hard time really placing myself there. I mean, I know the story, but I don't feel it. My only memory is of staring at the sky. However, what this scenario does do is lend itself to every other scenario I am in. Now, that sucks. Since I don't remember my mistake, it has become a list of possible mistakes. And they fit every situation that I find myself.

I would rather just "shiver" at the scene.

 
Gee Evil, I guess I'm the one who must break the sad news to you, everyone one else is skirting the issue. Dancing around it, trying to be nice. So here it is straight up, no frills, just flat out. [SIZE=24pt]You're Normal[/SIZE].............now deal with it. :rolleyes:

 
Evil,

It is a sign that you are realizing that you are no longer invisible and **** might happen. :) I think it is normal to think like you do. The only thing is if you are going to get back on the bike you have to cler your head a bit and have a positive thoughts.

It is like people show up to MSF and all they can talk about crashing during the test. They ride for 2 days no crashing and then during the test for no reason they dump the bike. It is called talking your self into things. I know there is another word for it, just can't spell it :)

So, relax and figure out if you can really be with out a bike. If the answer is no, then hop on it. BTW. If it has been a while you might want to take an MSF refresher again. I hear there is a class coming up this weekend :)

 
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