So this afternoon I made a few experiments. I wish I had a better way to do it than just "by feel" but that is what I went with.
First thing I tried was my heavy 1 lb weights but put a couple of washers in there of the appropriate size so the weight was directly contacting the end of the handlebar (metal to metal) under lots of tension on both sides. It felt OK, but no big change. And when I squeezed the bars firmlywith my hands I get about the same amplitude of buzzing on each side. If anything, the throttle side may be
slightly worse due to the throttle tube having a slight gap, and the contact with the bar being loose enough to rattle.
To get a side by side comparison I removed the right side 1 lb weight and put the stock weight there without the spacer washers, so it was floating on the rubber bar insert. Retesting I thought both sides were pretty much equal still.
Next I took the stock weight off the right side again, and put the pounder back on, but without the washers, and sure enough that did get slightly worse as I had originally noticed earlier. But the difference is pretty subtle and no matter what you seem to do with the bar ends the vibration in the bars persists
Next test was to get up to speed at 4k rpm and put the cruise control on, then feel along the bars from the very end all the way to where they mount on the HeliBar Bridge, and even felt the bridge itself. In the worst case 4k rpm, the ends of the bars and where the grips are are vibrating the most, progressively less vibe is felt as you move to the mounting point, and I feel no vibration at all at the bridge or triple clamp. None. Someone else should try that experiment, it's easy enough, and see if you get the same thing.
So what does all that mean? I'm not sure, but I think it means that the alloy bars themselves are the culprit, and are somehow resonating and amplifying the small amount of vibration input into what we feel in the grips. Well, everyone but Tom that is. And Brodie becaue he rides everywhere with "No hands, Ma!"
I am still going to experiment with some sort of isolation technique, maybe a thin layer of hard-ish rubber between the bars and bridge, and a couple of the same rubber washers under the bar mounting bolts. I fear the floppy bar syndrome that Wheaton warned of, but it' s just an experiment. If it feels crappy I won't be out much more than my own time.
The advantage of doing them where the bar mounts is I can do one side at a time and get a better sense if there was an improvement or change. One thing I have noticed about subjective analysis is that accuracy diminishes in direct proportion to the amount of time between samples.