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I got nothin' here...
I'll try it.Try talking to yourself, seriously.
Rehearse every key step while you are having that beer in front of the TV. When riding, actually speak to yourself in the helmet. Do it over and over and over until both the action and the verbal prompt are automatic. Then just shut up and ride.
I find that as my confidence grows from knowing that I can actually think everything through reliably, shutting up frees the extra brain power to take it to the next level.
It's like climbing steps, except you don't do another step until the last one doesn't hurt any more. I've been thrown off and slammed the ground more times than any old fart should. Same technique worked in dirt so I just transferred the conditioning principles to street. Might work for you.
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You are on a different bike, a VERY different bike now. What used to work no longer applies. You ARE learning all over again. That just takes time. 2:00 a.m. rides don't get you anywhere either!
And, I couldn't help the 2:00 a.m. thing. I had to see my peeps.