as someone that could loose a few pounds, I'd like to know how those of you who did drop 10-40 pounds, how did you do it?
Drink lots of water. Do not drink calories. No refined sugars. No desserts.
No white food(most all are starches), ie: white breads, potatoes, pasta, rice, etc.
No fried foods. Cut way down on the fatty foods(animal fats, butter, etc.).
Eats lots of veggies: raw and cooked, not breaded. Salads but very stingy on dressings. And there is a major difference in dressings, read the labels in a grocery store. If you are really hungry, water and green veggies are your friend.
Eat high fiber whole grains. Lots of fiber. Again, read the labels. You'll be suprised that advertising doesn't coincide with nutrition labeling.
Eat lean meats, beans, and nuts for protien. I eat lots of grilled, non-breaded, non-fat, lean meats.
Eat raw fruits for desserts. the flavored light yogurts are great for a snack-dessert.
If you really desire something sweet, then go ahead an have that bit of cake or chocolate. But just a taste in moderation. Don't beat yourself up over it. That way you won't feel denied and will stay on your new way of eating.
Don't view it as a "diet" but as a lifestyle change. Train yourself to eat healthy. The first 3 weeks are the hardest to break yourself of the sugar and fried cravings. But your taste will adapt and then you won't desire that any more.
And also address the mind aspect. Do you eat without thinking about it? Don't rush eating. Don't eat while you are doing something else. Enjoy what you eat and then get up and do something. Only eat when and if you are hungry. Stop before you feel full. The food will expand in your stomach and you will feel full later. Train yourself to leave something on your plate.
Break any habits of eating late at night. Eat earlier or just a small healthy snack. Then get moving doing something to occupy your mind besides food.
I know this is long but I hope it helps.