It's been a BAD day

[Windjammer]

I've been told that marriage is the first step toward a divorce. I've also been told that divorce is extremely expensive and painful, because IT'S WORTH IT!

Hang in there bro.

 

[dfpextraordinaire]

:angry2: FJR1300

As they say, tomorrow is another day and the bottom line is that this lady (?) is better gone than with you at this point. Sometimes we end up with someone that simply doesn't fit us and it is 'mo betta that she hits the road like a big turd. I've been there and have experienced your hurt, you will recover and if you are really lucky and keep lookin', you will find "the one". I found mine, although she doesn't dig my scoot, but that's cool cuz a fella needs some time to just hang with himself. Other than that, 4 kids, 2 dogs and 23 years later, she is still the one. I wake up and wonder sometimes how it is possible that I was so blessed to be able to sleep with my best friend, my favorite groove and the one I can't imagine my life without.

Keep the faith, my friend and don't get too freaked out. There is a beauty out there looking for you too, ya just gotta keep them eyers open and try not to get too jaded.

:angry2: :clapping: :clapping: :clapping:

****** things happen to good people too!!!

chin up!

 

[git-r-dan]

fjr1300

You've received some excellent advise from this thread. Here's my 2c, hang in there because there is a better plan for you AND be sure and leave all that crap at home before riding.

I'm sure you know about color rite - anyway here's their link: clicky It may help until you get some pro paint/airbrush/new bag.

Good luck w/ the employment, too. Ride safe.

gitterdan

 

[Fencer]

Also, found I out I'm getting divorced! How do I know? My soon-to-be ex-wife came home and told me so...

You and BamaCop need to get together, His Bitch ( I'm sorry did that slip out?) just did him the same way Monday, and on top of ruining his marriage, she ruined his brothers as well, by taking his brothers fiancee out slumming Monday night. now the wedding for the end of July is off.

 

[FJR1300]

You and BamaCop need to get together, His Bitch ( I'm sorry did that slip out?) just did him the same way Monday, and on top of ruining his marriage, she ruined his brothers as well, by taking his brothers fiancee out slumming Monday night. now the wedding for the end of July is off.

One of the reasons I quit the force was because she didn't like me working midnights.
Also, last time I got hurt pretty good and she was never the same after the incident. What's strange is the first time I got hurt, the Chief showed up at my house at 3:00am to drive her to the hospital. In the ER, the Chief said he was sorry if he scared her when he came into the house to get her and she said... "Well... if it was Marc's time to go, it was his time to go."

I guess I need to make a road trip to Alabama...

 

[FJRMGM]

Marc, you can always get another bag - both the blue one and the one on two legs.

Remember this: If it has ****s, wheels or wings - you are better off renting it.

P.S. - going through a divorce myself right now.

 

[exskibum]

What you said, "I do."
What she heard, "I do until you no longer need me and please make sure my bank account is nice and big when you take me for everything I have, including my dog. Oh, and when you do leave me, please kick me real hard in the balls just for ***** and giggles, k?" :blink:

Clearly one of the most comprehensive bits of wisdom and clarity I have ever read, Messr. Nut. Were you actually able to discern this in the recitation your own vows?

Any group of humans whose numero uno desire is to be put on a pedestal, taken care of and adored as the apogee of the universe is way too self absorbed to be about the twin fallacies "equality" and "partnership." This is an at will employer/employee relationship, and if you have the penis, you're NOT the boss. And we're surprised at who she is when she "suddenly" decides it better serves her interests to kick the male to the curb, take everything she can and seek the fulfillment that's been eluding her because "she's not happy"?!?!?!? <_<

Sorry to hear you're one of the latest casualties, Marc. Hang in there -- no matter what, you'll be better off without her. As to the pannier -- HA! I'm MUCH tougher on mine!

 

[starcruiser(aka downn2)]

If you wife gets herself a mean ass woman divorce lawyer like mine did, you might want to start referring to your bike as your wife's FJR, just to get used to the idea......If that happens, tell her it's worth $500 and she can post it in here for sell and at least one of us will be the beneficiary of your misfortune...........

And just thank god, you didn't get your business up, going and successful, or she'd probably get that too, thus joining the ranks of others successful X wifes who inherited their own companies thru divorce and are now enjoy riding their X'x FJRs to work too. That is when the don't want to drive the Porsche or the Mercedes...

Have a nice day.

 

[BudoshinFJR]

Sorry to hear about your troubles. I don't get it, she's unhappy so your the one thats suppose to move out and find another place to live. SCREW HER! If shes so unhappy tell her to move out! Find the best divorce lawyer you can, the money you spend now will save you much more down the road. My riding buddy is going through the same thing right now. It's messy 25 years of marriage, 3 kids, nice house, the whole deal. Good luck brother I feel your pain!

 

[twowheelnut]

Clearly one of the most comprehensive bits of wisdom and clarity I have ever read, Messr. Nut. Were you actually able to discern this in the recitation your own vows?

Thank you and yes. Twice. :blink:

 

[exskibum]

I don't get it, she's unhappy so your the one thats suppose to move out and find another place to live.

Let me explain for those who have no experience in these matters.

That IS the script. Check it out:

HE is the reason she is unhappy.** It is HER house, no matter whose money went into it (e.g., who makes the ultimate decisions on decorating and use of rooms?), and even though he may have been permitted to nominally occupy and claim the garage as his own (an accommodation she felt she had to make), it IS attached to the same property, so that's being repossessed, too. HE let her down by not being the man she believes she is entitled to ("that man" would have made her happy), and thus -- HE must pay reparations for that. After all, when your boss fires you, you don't get to keep coming back to the office OR have any of the benefits of that employment. :headbonk:

** One can only hope that if she lives to age 90 or so, it MIGHT occur to her that her unhappiness is largely her own doing, her own dissatisfaction with HER life as she's made it, and has less to do with the soon to be excised male than it does with her perspective on the world (and the effects of our media and society in creating unrealistic expectations about what a woman's life should be, what a man's life and responsibilites are, and about what it takes to be happy). Not holding my breath on that, though I'm often reminded of the third verse lyrics of the Lennon/McCartney song "Girl".

Clearly one of the most comprehensive bits of wisdom and clarity I have ever read, Messr. Nut. Were you actually able to discern this in the recitation your own vows?

Thank you and yes. Twice. :blink:

Ahhhh -- but too late to run before the marriage officer got to the "I now pronounce you . . . " part?

 

[twowheelnut]

Couldn't run. Feet were tied.

 

[rogdeb]

!st thing ya need to do is seperate your bank accounts and credit cards..ect!! write everyone that you have joint credit with and get out of the future liabilities.

Cary

+1, Amen! I didn't...costs a lot...at this point do not trust her. She will protect herself...you MUST protect yourself. Get legal counsel as quick as you can. This is no longer a moral issue, but a legal issue, so treat it as you would any other breached contract. Sorry for your disappointment and future pain.

As to the "reflector-ectomy", why use any chemical? :dribble: I (and others) have merely heated the bag (I layed mine in the summer sun) then gently twisted the thing off with some large channel-lock pliers. No messy chemical stain and no repainting the pannier.

Big, Big +1

 

[starcruiser(aka downn2)]

Don't know if kids are involved here, but if so, you'll find this amuzing...

When someone puts in for Child Support, the proper thing to do is to find out who the father is and see why he is not providing support.

The following are all replies that Dallas women have written on Child Support Agency forms in the section for listing father's details. Or putting it another way...Who's yo Daddy! These are genuine excerpts from the forms.

1. Regarding the identity of the father of my twins, child A was fathered by Jim Munson. I am unsure as to the identity of the father of child B, but I believe that he was conceived on the same night.

2. I am unsure as to the identity of the father of my child as I was being sick out of a window when taken unexpectedly from behind. I can provide you with a list of names of men that I think were at the party if this helps.

3. I do not know the name of the father of my little girl. She was conceived at a party at 3600 Grand Avenue where I had unprotected sex with a man I met that night. I do remember that the sex was so good that I fainted. If you do manage to track down the father, can you send me his phone number? Thanks.

4. I don't know the identity of the father of my daughter. He drives a BMW that now has a hole made by my stiletto heels in one of the door panels. Perhaps you can contact BMW service stations in this area and see if he's had it replaced.

5. I have never had sex with a man. I am still a Virginian. I am awaiting a letter from the Pope confirming that my son's conception was immaculate and that he is Christ risen again.

6. I cannot tell you the name of child A's dad as he informs me that to do so would blow his cover and that would have cataclysmic implications for the economy. I am torn between doing right by you and right by the country. Please advise.

7. I do not know who the father of my child was as all men look the same to me.

8. Peter Smith is the father of child A. If you do catch up with him, can you ask him what he did with my AC/DC CDs? Child B who was also borned at the same time.... well I don't have a clue.

9. From the dates it seems that my daughter was conceived at Disney World; maybe it really is the Magic Kingdom.

10. So much about that night is a blur. The only thing that I remember for sure is Delia Smith did a program about eggs earlier in the evening.

If I'd have stayed in and watched more TV rather than going to the party at 146 Miller Drive, mine might have remained unfertilized.

11. I am unsure as to the identity of the father of my baby, after all when you eat a can of beans you can't be sure which one made you fart.

 

[throttlejockeyTJ]

Sorry to here about you being short sheeted. As a surprise and not see it coming is hard to take. When I got married everything was going alright. & 7 years later she went to work with mostly men. She is smart and attractive (still young) and she was getting the attention. Things settled down but we almost split up. I inherited some money. I decided to use some to pay off the house. I wanted her to Notorize that that amount on the house would be absorbed into community property at the same rate as the house payment. She wondered if I was looking to Divorce her. If I was going to Divorce her I wouldn't pay off the house. My 31 Anniversary will be at WFO :yahoo:

 

[ShinyPartsUp]

Been divorced a few years and despite my promises I got remarried to a good woman April 1 (yes, on purpose). And I'm happy.

My ex still makes my life hell at times because I am the root cause of all her unhappiness. She still threatens to move with the kids far away so she can find herself. She's a selfish piece of crap, but that's why she is my ex

I just hope no kids are involved. I lost the house, all my tools, everything.....but I have the kids half the time and rebuilt a life. Be strong and it will all pass -- and feel like another lifetime..........

GET A LAWYER and listen to him or her. Don't trust ANYTHING the wife says. Protect yourself -- she will.

 

[painman]

You and your family are in my prayers. Sometimes things look dismal but have a way of working out. There is a good reason you married your bride. Try and seek some "good" counsel from a professional for the both of you and in the time being, a ride on the FJ will help ease some pain. Don't worry about the paint though, minor fix. PM. <>< Hang in there bro. and seek your answer. Blessings.

 

[FJR1300]

Thanks again for all the comments and suggestions! We have come to terms on a few things, such as both of us living in the house for now. I went on a job interview Thursday that looks promising... and it actually pays a decent salary.

Again thanks! It's amazing how many friends you have when something like this happens. Even those people you just thought of as "casual acquaintances" seem to have the right things to say.

Well, I'm out of here for a day... time to meet some friends for a nice Saturday ride.

 

[TheRepairMan]

Thanks again for all the comments and suggestions! We have come to terms on a few things, such as both of us living in the house for now. I went on a job interview Thursday that looks promising... and it actually pays a decent salary.
Again thanks! It's amazing how many friends you have when something like this happens. Even those people you just thought of as "casual acquaintances" seem to have the right things to say.

Well, I'm out of here for a day... time to meet some friends for a nice Saturday ride.

Marc,

Sounds like things have already improved some. The adjustments we are forced to make in life can be difficult, but as one chapter comes to an end... another begins, and for myself personally that has always ended up being a good thing.

Women say men are like buses ...another one will come along shortly.

I say men are like buses also. There's another woman waiting on every corner.

Don't take that literally! You could get arrested. :yahoo:

Good luck bro!

Roger

 

[FJR1300]

Okay... the sun is out again!

Just got a job offer that will allow me to keep my small business going and get a weekly paycheck. Downside is the job is over an hour away from where I live now, but that also means I get to ride the FJR two hours a day during the week.

I also got my saddlebag back from the body guy... a perfect match on the paint and an okay job on the paint. It was a friend's son who just graduated from a tech school. Total cost, including a quart of paint, was $175.00. I bought extra paint because I will most likely need more sometime down the road. I also had to buy a new relective kit from Alex because he got some paint on the reflective material and it won't clean up.

Oh well... things are looking better on the home front as well. My wife and I spent the holiday weekend spending some time togther.