Parenting Isn't For Cowards

[Tyler]

now about the double stud piercings just below her lower lip :assassin:

Great news about the graduation, Mike!! As for the piercing, I paid for my daughter to get her ears pierced... the first time. She wanted a 2nd earring piercing. I told her that once she was 18 and had her own money to pay for it, she was welcome to do anything she wanted. She had also mentioned a nose piercing so I recommended she do some research on what the permanent facial scarring would be like should she decide at some day that she wouldn't want it anymore. She did and decided it wasn't worth marring that beautiful face of hers.

I graduated form College with an English degree, writing minor, and and emphasis in Old English literature. My mom LOVES to run into my old 3rd grade teacher and mention it to her.

Oh that is a great story!! I would do the same damn thing to that small minded teacher!! :lol:

 

[Patriot]

now about the double stud piercings just below her lower lip :assassin:

Great news about the graduation, Mike!! As for the piercing, I paid for my daughter to get her ears pierced... the first time. She wanted a 2nd earring piercing. I told her that once she was 18 and had her own money to pay for it, she was welcome to do anything she wanted. She had also mentioned a nose piercing so I recommended she do some research on what the permanent facial scarring would be like should she decide at some day that she wouldn't want it anymore. She did and decided it wasn't worth marring that beautiful face of hers.

unlike Kali, most mainstream companies down here in the southern bible belt do not allow visible tatoos or piercings.

from her point of view, the retail stores at the mall marketing to teenagers encourage the opposite and yes, that may be a part time job while in school.

but Mom and Pop business owner who might otherwise mentor her, might be turned off

I've seen it before

the bad news is we had a big blowout, and her social worker/church counselor/psychologist ask her and me and her Mom if we could all meet.

the intense session basically had me realize I was unfairly comparing her to me and her sister. To her we are perfect and an unattainable level of success at this point.

I apologized, and knew she's been asking for a body piercing for months. Later, I sent her a love letter and a $100 bill that I would not question whatever (legally) she used it for.

Got the double face piercings - without consulting her high school - and was sent home the first day with them. Had to remove them at great mental and physical suffering...yes, bloody rags worth.

Now I'm really turned off at the thought of that experience.

But she keeps thanking me that I gave her that gift regardless of the outcome. And she promises she learned the lesson of researching possible consequences, not assume anything, and being less impulsive. And I ask her to try to self analyze what peer pressure is going on and if I promise to care more what people thing, she's try to less care the same.

 

[wfooshee]

Teens always know better than anybody, until they find out they don't. Sometimes that's painful, sometimes it surprises them, sometimes it just pisses them off.

Don't predict which it is, just be ready for which it is.

I'm a lot like you, I think, with the kids. I have a very deep well of patience, but at the bottom, there is mortal peril.

 

[Patriot]

MORE GOOD NEWS FROM OLIVERVILLE:

Emzy struggled with two courses required for graduation this semester

Math and History

she got a D on her history final, but had a B+ with her course work, so passed with a B/C

last Friday, she took her Math final going in with a D in the class, so with trepidation, she had to get a C or better

her teacher took her aside today and said she passed the class with a C ... didn't want Emzy to have to wait 4 weeks to find out

WOO HOO !!!

I'm gonna buy her a nice digital point & shoot camera which she's really wanted for months

thanx for all your support and interest,

Mike

in you know where

 

[Patriot]

Emily's English teacher nominated her for the Cox Hero Award - only one is given per school and she was approved for the current school out of 1200 students...it reflects "most improved" and most "tenancious to succeed overcoming obstacles."

Her teacher who nominated her wrote this up to be read when Emily received her award:

I first met Emily Oliver in January of this year as a student in my Business English class. She arrived with Warrior School blue dyed streaks in her hair and a heavy metal fanged necklace around her neck.

I came to admire a strength more important than her talented writing skills -- her tenacity for dealing with the challenges of being 17 and of trying to understand life with bipolar disorder. It was obvious that Emily was dealing with inner struggles beyond the ordinary teen. Inspite of her situation, Emily shows extraordinary empathy for peers and is always willing to help others and encourage them to see the positive side of life.

Over a period of three months, I watched her grow and blossom into a confident young lady. I feel that Emily has achieved great insight into utilizing the coping stragegies to deal with her lifelong disability.

 

[SacramentoMike]

Wonderful news, Mike. Thanks for the cheering post.

Emily, CONGRATULATIONS!

 

[cruppelt]

Wow, this is great to see. Thank you so much for sharing!

Congratulations Emily!!!!