October 2018
Brothers
Do you have to share DNA to be family? And how far would you go for your brother?
These days, those are hard questions to answer. The world is a tricky place and in the immortal words of the late, great George Carlin: “It’s all Bullshit and it’s bad for ya!”. You’d think that the world is coming to an end. Fires here. Storms there. And when nightfall comes, they start shooting.
People are stupid. The world isn’t coming to an end. It’s still spinning on its imaginary axis, one revolution per day.
I’m tired of worrying. I’ve spent my entire adult life worrying about something. Somebody would get sick. Somebody would get hurt. Some stupid shit would break. There isn’t enough money. There isn’t enough time. And on and on and on….
It’s exhausting and quite frankly, I’m sick of it.
It’s taken me decades to realize this, but the truth of the matter is this. There is nothing to worry about and it doesn’t help anyway. Good days come and bad days come. When bad days come, you assess the situation and you either react or you don’t. But standing in the corner sucking your thumb and wondering “what if” isn’t going to change that, no way, no how.
So I’m done with worrying. I’ve met my obligations for this life. I’ve raised my kids and they are on their own. I’ve done my work and in due time, I’ll retire and without guilt, they can just kiss it where the sun won’t shine. Or they won’t – doesn’t matter to me. Every month, they will send me the check whether they like it or not.
What matters now is what should have mattered all along. Priorities should be with happiness, health, and family - in that order, and without compromise. And since I’m feeling pretty dam happy and pretty dam healthy, why not move directly toward family? If there is one thing I have learned from my travels on the motorcycle, it’s that there is a brotherhood (and sisterhood) between bikers. It’s impossible to understand by the non-rider, but among riders, it’s not only understood, but cherished like a prized possession. No matter what you ride, how you ride, or where you ride, we all have a certain amount in common. We know what the wind really feels like. We know how a cage’s windshield can shield the real world we are traveling through. We know that the real world exist in 3 dimensions, where depth of field provides true context to our environment.
And to solidify this brotherhood, we find ourselves attracted to each other. Not in some kind of sick voyeurism, but in ways beyond description. We hold rallies, rambles, meets, and rides. We travel great distances to be with each other. The location of the meet and greet is important, I guess. But the fact is that doesn’t really matter much. What matters is that we will be together, enjoying our motorcycles together, and sharing our lives and our happiness together.
And if we are especially lucky, one or more of our brothers will come to see us. He or she will take time out of their busy lives and devote a portion of their very limited vacation and riding time to come to where we live and see us. They will let us take them to see our version of what we like most about our homeland. Not the stuff they can find on google or Yelp. The REALLY good stuff. The stuff that only a rider would appreciate. Your roads, your food, and your happiness.
My brother Doug was nice enough to give me a shot. And I was ecstatic to have him.
Tomorrow, my other brother Dan will be here. And we’ll do it all over again. I’ve got my priorities straight – happiness, health, and family.
Stay thirsty, my friends.