Just to reply to myself (and if I don't stop that, will I go blind?) in case anyone else hits the same concerns about the suspension that I did (too hard);
When dialing in your perfect suspension settings, start with first checking your tire pressure. After a couple of days of fiddling and being unable to get it so that the ride didn't feel so busy, I checked the tire pressure completely on an unrelated whim and found the front tire hovering close to 50psi, with the rear sitting at 42 <facepalm>
Alrighty then... so back to HaulinAshe's settings (now in a note in Evernote in my iPhone so I can refer to it), drop the tire pressure to where it's supposed to be, out for a ride and VOILA. OK, the light suddenly dawns, the ride doesn't feel so ridiculously busy over St. Louis's wonderful roads and I am FAR more comfortable with my new ride. My girlfriend comes along for a couple of rides and comments how nice the bike is compared to the GS... everyone's happy
The bike still dives more than I think it should on braking, but this is something I think I'll just get used to. It doesn't feel bad, just a little unexpected to me... and it's nowhere near as bad as the GS was!
Approaching a week now, and I'm still REALLY happy with the bike. Even more so, now. For this week I'll ride it when I can, and maybe this weekend I'll tear into it, change the oil and replace those heated grips with the ridiculous controls with another aftermarket set I purchased for my Connie but never installed. Woohoo! Let the farkling commence