she'll only do it once.
if she doesn't want to ride have her follow in the car. if she doesn't want to do that check the schedule of the mailman and the milkman.
Tips on getting Spouse to feel safe on the FJR
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if she doesn't want to ride have her follow in the car. if she doesn't want to do that check the schedule of the mailman and the milkman.
MojaveFJR
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Get her a chatterbox with blue tooth, she can listen to tunes. My wife is so busy rubber necking I think don't she will ever fall asleep. That and we don't slab it much and when we do, the feej is in the wind.
canyonman
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+1One-up driving habits will cause discomfort and consternation accompanied by mild strikes to the upper torso.
Cheers,
W2
I can tell you what not to do and that's upgrade to a Penske shock and GP forks and take her with you on a shakedown run through the twistys. :whistling:
I finally stopped peeing blood a couple days later :black eye:
palerider
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https://www.getlovehandles.com/design.html
I talked to this guy at the Long Beach motorcycle show last year. He said he thought they could fit a set for an FJR, but I never followed up.
Scoops
uh . . . whut?
krashdragon
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The Ex-wife refused to get on any of my bikes after a minor rear wheel slide on a freeway ramp. Got rid of her!Ex-Girlfriend was much better, (some of you may know her from NAFO or CFR,) but the pressure on my sides when the speedo topped a buck and a quarter was unbearable. Got rid of her!
My current interest hasn't ridden pillion for years but seems quite trainable... we'll see how things go!
In the meantime, using the BMW R1200RT video as a recruiting tool!
+100 on a Comm System. Tunes when I want tunes, conversation when I want conversation AND "peace and quite" when I want that! Gawd, I love options!
wow... if you're giving your g.f. a BMW R1200RT, I'll volunteer... :dribble:
oh crap... you mean the VIDEO!
Oh well!
Have fun!
Mary
FJRGuy
FJR Rally Addict! :D
:lol: Hell, I hadn't thought of buying myself a new GF but I'm guessing there are a lot of better 'bribes' to find a suitable candidate! Ideally I'd like my SO to have/want her own ride but that seems to severely limit the options!wow... if you're giving your g.f. a BMW R1200RT, I'll volunteer... :dribble:...In the meantime, using the BMW R1200RT video as a recruiting tool!
oh crap... you mean the VIDEO!
Oh well!
Have fun!
Mary
MEM
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Do you have an age limit ?:lol: Hell, I hadn't thought of buying myself a new GF but I'm guessing there are a lot of better 'bribes' to find a suitable candidate! Ideally I'd like my SO to have/want her own ride but that seems to severely limit the options!
Having been down this road to the ugly end, (one possible end), it needs to be said that some folks just don't enjoy the pillion position. Their discomfort, be if from lack of control or simply feeling vaguely insecure results in the rider having less fun on the bike. You spend a lot of time and energy trying your best to make sure the pillion is as comfortable as possible, but you can never fully get there. The pillion is feeling unsafe, you're frustrated and riding well below your normal level and it's just not a recipe for fun.
I so wanted to share the bike experience with the woman I loved, and part of that meant being able to go to places I would not be able to go to in the car. Despite thousands of dollars spent and a long, slow, incremental process of working up to riding days that were still less than half of what I would do alone, it just never took. In the end, it wasn't worth it for me to limit myself to the car just to be with her. I could see the writing on the wall for her attempting to limit my riding or even asking me to stop riding. All because of her discomfort. Much of which had little to do with any real issues or occurrences.
Do try. But understand that it just might not happen. Try to talk to the pillion about that and how you both feel too.
I so wanted to share the bike experience with the woman I loved, and part of that meant being able to go to places I would not be able to go to in the car. Despite thousands of dollars spent and a long, slow, incremental process of working up to riding days that were still less than half of what I would do alone, it just never took. In the end, it wasn't worth it for me to limit myself to the car just to be with her. I could see the writing on the wall for her attempting to limit my riding or even asking me to stop riding. All because of her discomfort. Much of which had little to do with any real issues or occurrences.
Do try. But understand that it just might not happen. Try to talk to the pillion about that and how you both feel too.
I am tremendously blessed to have a wife who loves the motorcycle and loves to ride pillion on it (she even loved flying right-seat back in the days when we could afford to rent a Cessna now and again). Like the OP, my wife does find she can start to nod off now and again, but she is aware of her limits and so far has kept me in the loop. We don't have audio yet, so she tugs on the velcro adjustment tabs on the sides of my jacket when she wants me to pull off (sort of like being a horse, I get the left tug to turn left, the right tug to turn right and both means 'whoa'). We get about 1.5 to 2 hours before we need to park and stretch.
We took our first long trip this weekend, putting on 875 miles between Saturday and today (ride report forthcoming probably tomorrow). All in all she loved it. This trip actually rearranged our priority list for the next farkle for the bike. She wears ATGATT, because I insist and she understands the need for it. However, she doesn't like having to deal with the gear at each stop (carrying it around) and I'm not always comfortable with just draping it over the bike and hoping no one walks off with it. She tells me now that the priority is a top box that will hold both our jackets and our pants (helmets go in the side cases). She doesn't really feel the need for a back rest, but the storage is now a must-have for her. Other than that, she loves sitting behind me and has no problem leaning with me, and she's even trying her hand at on-the-move photography (we'll see how that worked out this time with the ride report photos).
All that being said, she is also now starting to look at smaller bikes that she might pilot on her own, and we have her setting up a weekend MSF Basic Rider course this summer sometime. For now she's happy on pillion, and I'm incredibly happy to have her along and sharing the 'FJR Grin' (with apologies to Van's Aircraft for stealing their slogan)!
We took our first long trip this weekend, putting on 875 miles between Saturday and today (ride report forthcoming probably tomorrow). All in all she loved it. This trip actually rearranged our priority list for the next farkle for the bike. She wears ATGATT, because I insist and she understands the need for it. However, she doesn't like having to deal with the gear at each stop (carrying it around) and I'm not always comfortable with just draping it over the bike and hoping no one walks off with it. She tells me now that the priority is a top box that will hold both our jackets and our pants (helmets go in the side cases). She doesn't really feel the need for a back rest, but the storage is now a must-have for her. Other than that, she loves sitting behind me and has no problem leaning with me, and she's even trying her hand at on-the-move photography (we'll see how that worked out this time with the ride report photos).
All that being said, she is also now starting to look at smaller bikes that she might pilot on her own, and we have her setting up a weekend MSF Basic Rider course this summer sometime. For now she's happy on pillion, and I'm incredibly happy to have her along and sharing the 'FJR Grin' (with apologies to Van's Aircraft for stealing their slogan)!
It is quite normal and healthy for married folks to have separate and individual interests and hobbies.
I'd say, leave her to decide for herself. If she doesn't want to ride, why bribe her or guilt her into going?
I'd say, leave her to decide for herself. If she doesn't want to ride, why bribe her or guilt her into going?
wheatonFJR
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madmike2
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Me, too! Er...uhm....that may be a drastic solution, but it works for some.
[SIZE=14pt]Just kidding!!![/SIZE]
Actually, Barb ave some good advice. If it isn't a "fit" for her, let her be honest and set it aside.
It isn't "wrong", it would just be her decision for her own reasons.
rocknfjr
Active member
My wife loved riding her own bike but due to medical reasons can no longer ride her own. a few things were needed for her to enjoy being a passenger.
1- custom seat (built for her not for me)
2- starcom intercom
3- I built extended rear foot pegs
4- top case for back rest and storage. left side bag is mine right side is hers
we took a trip Ca. to NC. beaches and back about 7300 mi. Our short days were about 300 mi longest 625
she has now log about 15000 mi with me. I stop after about 1 1/2 hours. I have learned to ride a little smoother than before.
1- custom seat (built for her not for me)
2- starcom intercom
3- I built extended rear foot pegs
4- top case for back rest and storage. left side bag is mine right side is hers
we took a trip Ca. to NC. beaches and back about 7300 mi. Our short days were about 300 mi longest 625
she has now log about 15000 mi with me. I stop after about 1 1/2 hours. I have learned to ride a little smoother than before.
MEM
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That doesn't always work out so well :blink:
Edit: but I digress. That's a whole new thread
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krashdragon
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maybe you're just lokking in the wrong places..<G>:lol: Hell, I hadn't thought of buying myself a new GF but I'm guessing there are a lot of better 'bribes' to find a suitable candidate! Ideally I'd like my SO to have/want her own ride but that seems to severely limit the options!wow... if you're giving your g.f. a BMW R1200RT, I'll volunteer... :dribble:...In the meantime, using the BMW R1200RT video as a recruiting tool!
oh crap... you mean the VIDEO!
Oh well!
Have fun!
Mary
what age you looking for? <LOL>
I'm pbly too old, but I know a lot of nice wimmins that ride....
mary
MEM
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Hey Krash! I asked first - kindawhat age you looking for? <LOL>I'm pbly too old, but I know a lot of nice wimmins that ride....
mary
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As others have touched on, some people are cut out to be a pillion, some not. I too am blessed with a wife who is happy being my 2-up. With an Autocom Super Pro Automatic and an Airhawk on top of our Corbin, she is content for however long a ride we choose. We recently completed a 36 hour photo-bonus rally together and at the end I got grief from her because we came up 46 miles short of getting her a bun burner ride cert.
Yes, she has slept on every bike we've ridden together, ST1100, GL1800 and the FJR. She has never come close to falling off or even leaning or listing a little. The longest I think she's slept straight on the FJR was about 45min.
For me, the comm system is a must with my pillion. I think it relaxes them some when they can talk to me during the ride. Plus it makes the ride more enjoyable for me.
Good luck with your spouse.
Yes, she has slept on every bike we've ridden together, ST1100, GL1800 and the FJR. She has never come close to falling off or even leaning or listing a little. The longest I think she's slept straight on the FJR was about 45min.
For me, the comm system is a must with my pillion. I think it relaxes them some when they can talk to me during the ride. Plus it makes the ride more enjoyable for me.
Good luck with your spouse.
palerider
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I bought my wife her own motorcycle, taught her to ride (in the Candlestick Park parking lot), and we went on some long rides together. She kept her bike (a Honda 400f) and commuted to work on it for a couple of years, but after a few long recreational rides together, she wanted to leave her bike behind and ride with me. She said she was much more comfortable because she knew what was going on up front.
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My daughter has slept on many occasions
She has never even come close to falling off.
She started on the back when she was 11 and is now almost 15
She has noted that when I ride the bike the way I feel comfortable riding not how I think she would feel comfortable
She enjoys the ride much more
They can tell when you are being temperate and I believe it actually unnerves them
They feel your lack of what they think is confidence and that is not confidence inspiring for them
Ride your ride
She has never even come close to falling off.
She started on the back when she was 11 and is now almost 15
She has noted that when I ride the bike the way I feel comfortable riding not how I think she would feel comfortable
She enjoys the ride much more
They can tell when you are being temperate and I believe it actually unnerves them
They feel your lack of what they think is confidence and that is not confidence inspiring for them
Ride your ride
