A Note from Tyler

[Patriot]

To my beloved family and friends:
Have you seen the movie "Avatar" yet? There is a scene where the main character is being accepted into the tribe of blue aliens. The ones nearest to him put their hand on his shoulder, then those next to them do the same, and so on and so on until they form a huge chain or web of energy and spirit, solidifying him as being one with them. It was very moving, well at least for me, because that's how I envisioned all of you in the world as you prayed and sent your energy to me.

With the end of 2009, I will be glad to put it behind me and focus forward with healing, hope and anticipation for what the future has in store for all of us.

I give thanks to each and every one of you for being a part of my spiritual web and the part that you played in my healing. I wish the very best that life has to offer each of you as we move into the New Year.

Much love,

Tyler

I'm sorry, I'm a "leg man"...wadda ya said ???

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[Checkswrecks]

To my beloved family and friends:
Have you seen the movie "Avatar" yet? There is a scene where the main character is being accepted into the tribe of blue aliens. The ones nearest to him put their hand on his shoulder, then those next to them do the same, and so on and so on until they form a huge chain or web of energy and spirit, solidifying him as being one with them. It was very moving, well at least for me, because that's how I envisioned all of you in the world as you prayed and sent your energy to me.

With the end of 2009, I will be glad to put it behind me and focus forward with healing, hope and anticipation for what the future has in store for all of us.

I give thanks to each and every one of you for being a part of my spiritual web and the part that you played in my healing. I wish the very best that life has to offer each of you as we move into the New Year.

Much love,

Tyler

Hey, while it was painful to you in the extreme, you have to know that you've been one of the forces that kept so many of us checking in on each other & caring. You've meant a lot without probably even realizing it. Best in the New Year to you and to all!!!

Bob

 

[Silver Penguin]

Honored to be a small part of a big web.

Happy New Year to all.

Jill

 

[juniorfjr]

Beleive it or not we all healed with you, and you gave us strength. Ant it's all down hill from here. it''s all good.

 

[beemerdons]

Happy New Year Tyler, May You and Yours Have All of the Very Best in 2010! We look forward to riding with you. Don & Seth

 

[Old Michael]

My god, it'll be good having you back, Sunshine.

So listen up. I've been reading all the motorcycle reviews, and specs, and lists of features, and we

need to focus on a few specific priorities. First, .........

Okay. I'll give you another week.

 

[03silverbullet]

Glad to hear you are doing well.

Have a great 2010.

 

[painman]

Tyler, prayers and best wishes in the new year and a new begining. We're just glad your doing so well. PM. <>< :angel:

 

[Tyler]

Darkness. Now that I'm not fighting for my life every day, I have been left with dealing with the emotional aftermath. Someone said to me, "It must be so nice to get back to normal"... I wasn't sure how to respond. Normal, or at least the normal that was, will never be again. I have to find the "new" normal and what that will be. While my scars are not evident to the naked eye upon first meeting, they run deep both physically and emotionally. One of the nurses that has been doing my dressing changes for months said that my scars were the evidence of a survivor... I never really thought of it that way but they are. So I move forward, embracing the marks of being a survivor and coming to terms with who and what I am now and this "new" body I move about in the world with.

A friend on one of the forums, who also has had life altering events wrote to me that we have been give the bittersweet gift of seeing life in a way many do not get to. He counseled me to see these hurdles to be seen as experiences -- neither good or bad -- simply something that would shape my world and could be drawn upon to offer me perspective on all things living... it always amazes me how the words that you need at any given time in your life usually just appear at the right time. Another good friend said I obviously had an angel looking out for me... I kind of giggled and said, nope, I have a whole army! I realize at times that there are those who are much worse off than I and so I try to share the new found compassion for myself with them... hoping to touch them and help find the gift in their lives.

Living in this body, a foreign entity in some ways, day in and day out and dealing with what I have become seems like it's been forever sometimes... but then I stop and remember that about 9 months ago I almost died, 4 months ago I was in a wheelchair and shortly after that took my very first wobbly steps, 3 months ago I danced (ok, maybe more like swaying rhythmically!) at a fundraising dinner, and now I am back home and back at work as well.Today, I am walking, back to work (nice to be in an environment that doesn't involve medical personnel!), fixing dinner for me and my daughter, etc. But I still am left at the end of the day with just me... I am blessed with loving family and friends but it is up to me and me alone to move forward with my life.

Abundance. So I focus on the abundant gifts that life has given me and all the things that I CAN do... walk, talk, hug, laugh, think, drive, wave, wiggle. One of the biggest challenges I am working on is living in the NOW. Not asking "what if" or "how come" or "will I" because worrying about the past or future is a fairly moot point and you miss living your life... this moment right NOW will pass you by and never come again. I remember the first time my parents wheeled me out of the hospital and into the fresh air and I was hit with a swell of emotion at how absolutely and incredibly beautiful that moment was... the blue of the sky, the wispy white clouds, the smell of cut grass, a small child's laughter... and I was so grateful to be able to still be alive to experience that. And that is the moment that I try to hold onto... experiencing the moment at hand and the wonder that the world has to offer.

I think of the days of my dance and choreographic adventures and at first I weep for the loss of what was... but then I feel something bubble up in me... the thought of what can become, what can be, what I can still create. Most likely, I will never move the way that I did before... but that doesn't mean I can't move at all in a different way... a deeper way. Bob Fosse, one of my greatest choreographer idols and inspirations, was not the traditional dancer type. He was slightly pigeon-toed, one shoulder drooped lower than the other, losing his hair early, didn't like his hands... so rather than give up he created a style of dance based on those "imperfections"... the bowler hat, gloves, tipped shoulders, and turned in knees became some of his trademarks and he created some of the most amazing and sexy choreography ever! "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade."

Tonight I just had a conversation with another dear friend... I told her of going through the CaringBridge journal and being amazed at how I had touched people's lives with something, that to me, was such a simple thing... a kindness, a smile, an ear, an "atta boy", an offer of support... and she reminded me that we don't understand the power that each and every one of us has to make a difference in another person's life by a "simple" thing... yes, I have that gift of being able to give to others but really, don't we all?

So I will leave you with that thought as well as a link to a song that a forum friend posted called "Now" (appropriate timing, no?). I wish that each of you look deeper into your inner being and find the inner peace of now and being able to pass that along to others as you go along your journeys. Thank you again to everyone who has been, and continues to be, there for me. You each amaze me and make me grateful to still be around to experience you.



Much love,

Tyler

 

[rushes]

Darkness. Now that I'm not fighting for my life every day, I have been left with dealing with the emotional aftermath. Someone said to me, "It must be so nice to get back to normal"... I wasn't sure how to respond. Normal, or at least the normal that was, will never be again. I have to find the "new" normal and what that will be. While my scars are not evident to the naked eye upon first meeting, they run deep both physically and emotionally. One of the nurses that has been doing my dressing changes for months said that my scars were the evidence of a survivor... I never really thought of it that way but they are. So I move forward, embracing the marks of being a survivor and coming to terms with who and what I am now and this "new" body I move about in the world with.
A friend on one of the forums, who also has had life altering events wrote to me that we have been give the bittersweet gift of seeing life in a way many do not get to. He counseled me to see these hurdles to be seen as experiences -- neither good or bad -- simply something that would shape my world and could be drawn upon to offer me perspective on all things living... it always amazes me how the words that you need at any given time in your life usually just appear at the right time. Another good friend said I obviously had an angel looking out for me... I kind of giggled and said, nope, I have a whole army! I realize at times that there are those who are much worse off than I and so I try to share the new found compassion for myself with them... hoping to touch them and help find the gift in their lives.

Living in this body, a foreign entity in some ways, day in and day out and dealing with what I have become seems like it's been forever sometimes... but then I stop and remember that about 9 months ago I almost died, 4 months ago I was in a wheelchair and shortly after that took my very first wobbly steps, 3 months ago I danced (ok, maybe more like swaying rhythmically!) at a fundraising dinner, and now I am back home and back at work as well.Today, I am walking, back to work (nice to be in an environment that doesn't involve medical personnel!), fixing dinner for me and my daughter, etc. But I still am left at the end of the day with just me... I am blessed with loving family and friends but it is up to me and me alone to move forward with my life.

Abundance. So I focus on the abundant gifts that life has given me and all the things that I CAN do... walk, talk, hug, laugh, think, drive, wave, wiggle. One of the biggest challenges I am working on is living in the NOW. Not asking "what if" or "how come" or "will I" because worrying about the past or future is a fairly moot point and you miss living your life... this moment right NOW will pass you by and never come again. I remember the first time my parents wheeled me out of the hospital and into the fresh air and I was hit with a swell of emotion at how absolutely and incredibly beautiful that moment was... the blue of the sky, the wispy white clouds, the smell of cut grass, a small child's laughter... and I was so grateful to be able to still be alive to experience that. And that is the moment that I try to hold onto... experiencing the moment at hand and the wonder that the world has to offer.

I think of the days of my dance and choreographic adventures and at first I weep for the loss of what was... but then I feel something bubble up in me... the thought of what can become, what can be, what I can still create. Most likely, I will never move the way that I did before... but that doesn't mean I can't move at all in a different way... a deeper way. Bob Fosse, one of my greatest choreographer idols and inspirations, was not the traditional dancer type. He was slightly pigeon-toed, one shoulder drooped lower than the other, losing his hair early, didn't like his hands... so rather than give up he created a style of dance based on those "imperfections"... the bowler hat, gloves, tipped shoulders, and turned in knees became some of his trademarks and he created some of the most amazing and sexy choreography ever! "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade."

Tonight I just had a conversation with another dear friend... I told her of going through the CaringBridge journal and being amazed at how I had touched people's lives with something, that to me, was such a simple thing... a kindness, a smile, an ear, an "atta boy", an offer of support... and she reminded me that we don't understand the power that each and every one of us has to make a difference in another person's life by a "simple" thing... yes, I have that gift of being able to give to others but really, don't we all?

So I will leave you with that thought as well as a link to a song that a forum friend posted called "Now" (appropriate timing, no?). I wish that each of you look deeper into your inner being and find the inner peace of now and being able to pass that along to others as you go along your journeys. Thank you again to everyone who has been, and continues to be, there for me. You each amaze me and make me grateful to still be around to experience you.

I've got to meet you some day and kiss you on the top of your head...

 

[Patriot]

Darkness. Now that I'm not fighting for my life every day, I So I will leave you with that thought as well as a link to a song that a forum friend posted called "Now" (appropriate timing, no?). I wish that each of you look deeper into your inner being and find the inner peace of now and being able to pass that along to others as you go along your journeys. Thank you again to everyone who has been, and continues to be, there for me. You each amaze me and make me grateful to still be around to experience you.

top of the head...I have other plans for this precious Kali girl...'specially if she wearing her signature purple...

<cheeks will do>

 

[fjrchooser]

Tyler, you make me wish I knew you.

 

[Fairlaner]

NIce Tyler Nice.......

R

Oh and i love the song.

 

[James Burleigh]

I see your accident has given you the gift of eloquent wisdom, which has made those of us whom you touched with your shared experience the better for it. Thanks. Hans

 

[Rogue]

Very nicely said!

 

[Silver Penguin]

Beautifully written Tyler, and inspiring. The song was just what I needed to start my day.

 

[beemerdons]

Extremely inspirational and so very beautiful, Tyler! Thank you for sharing this with your Friends!

 

[Steel]

Darkness. Now that I'm not fighting for my life every day, I have been left with dealing with the emotional aftermath. Someone said to me, "It must be so nice to get back to normal"... I wasn't sure how to respond. Normal, or at least the normal that was, will never be again. I have to find the "new" normal and what that will be. While my scars are not evident to the naked eye upon first meeting, they run deep both physically and emotionally. One of the nurses that has been doing my dressing changes for months said that my scars were the evidence of a survivor... I never really thought of it that way but they are. So I move forward, embracing the marks of being a survivor and coming to terms with who and what I am now and this "new" body I move about in the world with.
A friend on one of the forums, who also has had life altering events wrote to me that we have been give the bittersweet gift of seeing life in a way many do not get to. He counseled me to see these hurdles to be seen as experiences -- neither good or bad -- simply something that would shape my world and could be drawn upon to offer me perspective on all things living... it always amazes me how the words that you need at any given time in your life usually just appear at the right time. Another good friend said I obviously had an angel looking out for me... I kind of giggled and said, nope, I have a whole army! I realize at times that there are those who are much worse off than I and so I try to share the new found compassion for myself with them... hoping to touch them and help find the gift in their lives.

Living in this body, a foreign entity in some ways, day in and day out and dealing with what I have become seems like it's been forever sometimes... but then I stop and remember that about 9 months ago I almost died, 4 months ago I was in a wheelchair and shortly after that took my very first wobbly steps, 3 months ago I danced (ok, maybe more like swaying rhythmically!) at a fundraising dinner, and now I am back home and back at work as well.Today, I am walking, back to work (nice to be in an environment that doesn't involve medical personnel!), fixing dinner for me and my daughter, etc. But I still am left at the end of the day with just me... I am blessed with loving family and friends but it is up to me and me alone to move forward with my life.

Abundance. So I focus on the abundant gifts that life has given me and all the things that I CAN do... walk, talk, hug, laugh, think, drive, wave, wiggle. One of the biggest challenges I am working on is living in the NOW. Not asking "what if" or "how come" or "will I" because worrying about the past or future is a fairly moot point and you miss living your life... this moment right NOW will pass you by and never come again. I remember the first time my parents wheeled me out of the hospital and into the fresh air and I was hit with a swell of emotion at how absolutely and incredibly beautiful that moment was... the blue of the sky, the wispy white clouds, the smell of cut grass, a small child's laughter... and I was so grateful to be able to still be alive to experience that. And that is the moment that I try to hold onto... experiencing the moment at hand and the wonder that the world has to offer.

I think of the days of my dance and choreographic adventures and at first I weep for the loss of what was... but then I feel something bubble up in me... the thought of what can become, what can be, what I can still create. Most likely, I will never move the way that I did before... but that doesn't mean I can't move at all in a different way... a deeper way. Bob Fosse, one of my greatest choreographer idols and inspirations, was not the traditional dancer type. He was slightly pigeon-toed, one shoulder drooped lower than the other, losing his hair early, didn't like his hands... so rather than give up he created a style of dance based on those "imperfections"... the bowler hat, gloves, tipped shoulders, and turned in knees became some of his trademarks and he created some of the most amazing and sexy choreography ever! "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade."

Tonight I just had a conversation with another dear friend... I told her of going through the CaringBridge journal and being amazed at how I had touched people's lives with something, that to me, was such a simple thing... a kindness, a smile, an ear, an "atta boy", an offer of support... and she reminded me that we don't understand the power that each and every one of us has to make a difference in another person's life by a "simple" thing... yes, I have that gift of being able to give to others but really, don't we all?

So I will leave you with that thought as well as a link to a song that a forum friend posted called "Now" (appropriate timing, no?). I wish that each of you look deeper into your inner being and find the inner peace of now and being able to pass that along to others as you go along your journeys. Thank you again to everyone who has been, and continues to be, there for me. You each amaze me and make me grateful to still be around to experience you.

I am 5'10", weigh 230 and bench press 390 lbs.

And damnit, I'M NOT GONNA CRY!

 

[scubabiker]

Tyler, I thought you rocked before the accident. Now the rock has more brilliance. Shine on you eloquent diamond.

 

[old&slow]

Abundance. So I focus on the abundant gifts that life has given me and all the things that I CAN do... walk, talk, hug, laugh, think, drive, wave, wiggle. One of the biggest challenges I am working on is living in the NOW. Not asking "what if" or "how come" or "will I" because worrying about the past or future is a fairly moot point and you miss living your life... this moment right NOW will pass you by and never come again. I remember the first time my parents wheeled me out of the hospital and into the fresh air and I was hit with a swell of emotion at how absolutely and incredibly beautiful that moment was... the blue of the sky, the wispy white clouds, the smell of cut grass, a small child's laughter... and I was so grateful to be able to still be alive to experience that. And that is the moment that I try to hold onto... experiencing the moment at hand and the wonder that the world has to offer.

Tyler ,, Very nicely done..... :clapping:

In 1980 I had an auto accident,, shattered my knee ,, spent 2 weeks in the hospital then 5 month in bed..

( Very minor stuff compared to what you went thru,,, )

Some days my knee does OK ,, and some days it hurts pretty bad ,, ( the last 4 months it has been hurting like hell ,,

time for another operation I guess ,, this time I think I'm getting a new plastic or stainless steel knee)

My wife was banged up pretty bad too,, facial injuries... But my 2 1/2 year old daughter was unharmed ...

My little girls is all grown up now ,,, went to college ,, has a good job ,, and has 2 lovely children and one on the way ...

( Not to leave out my younger daughter ,,, she went to college and is an RN ,,and has a son...)

So,,, Life is good.... :yahoo: even if there are a few bumps in the road....

Keep getting better,,, Keep letting us know how you are doing,,, Take Care Old & Slow Dan <<<