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FrostBack #2 - IBA # 44620
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Dr. Rich
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I think if you tell this low life that you have a friend down in the States that is willing to come up and take him out he might leave you alone. Provide him with a picture of your good friend " Hitman Bustanut Joker" and I'll bet you never hear from him again!
exskibum
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Best explanation I've heard of a lot of this (from a wise woman) is that "men just don't get it until you tell them." But it seems you're talking about being very clear, and them still not getting it.
So, while tempted to reply differently, you did ask for serious, Barb. I don't understand the phenomenon you're talking about, but it surely does exist at levels with some guys that are hard to believe. To me, once it's clear that it's not the female game of "no might mean yes", it's time to take a hike and thank her for not wasting her or my time pursuing something that isn't going to be mutually rewarding. But to answer your question, with those types, you have to be undesirable, no . . . UNDESIRABLE!!! So . . .
Herpes is a good response, UNLESS the guy you're trying to chase away has it too. Then you're likely to make him even more insistent, since you might just be his idea of the perfect match. Better to double up with a back up disease/nasty trait/etc. Scolding is a great one. Never miss an opportunity to rip him for everything he does. Bossing him around is another. Demand ****, not valuable, but you know: run his ass around and be very critical and unappreciative. Let him know you're dating/talking to other guys while he's running meaningless errands for you. Find out if he has an ex that he hates or an embarrassing circumstance in his past. ALWAYS raise that and make sure to get all the details; never miss a chance to find out more. Belittle him about something that you discover really makes him squirm. Or about anything he's proud of. As soon as he contacts you to start a conversation, begin to complain and don't let up. Doesn't matter about what (but make sure to include something about him), but use the first half hour of any contact to just unload. If he tries to commiserate or help, give him the "why do you have to always try to fix everything or one up what I say?!?" And be pissed about it. Go off on a crazy rant -- make sure there is NO logic to it, just do it. Oh, and to fill in any gaps that may exist as you try to look for creative conversation pieces, talk about your exes. The details. Especially note how lousy they were as lovers, and any other deficiencies. If the ex was under-hung, bring that up often (or lie about it if he wasn't), same thing for in the sack performance -- let him figure out that the same emasculating narration will be his legacy to anyone who follows him.
In short, try to think of all the things that would drive you NUTS, then consider it from a male perspective (as mentioned above) and only let him see that part of your personality. If you showed him the other side first, don't worry -- it'll take a little more time but he'll soon enough realize that he really didn't KNOW you at first -- you were only drawing him in with your good side.
If none of that works, I'm afraid you're gonna have to shoot him. You do have guns for that purpose up there don't you?
Hope that helps. :lol:
So, while tempted to reply differently, you did ask for serious, Barb. I don't understand the phenomenon you're talking about, but it surely does exist at levels with some guys that are hard to believe. To me, once it's clear that it's not the female game of "no might mean yes", it's time to take a hike and thank her for not wasting her or my time pursuing something that isn't going to be mutually rewarding. But to answer your question, with those types, you have to be undesirable, no . . . UNDESIRABLE!!! So . . .
Herpes is a good response, UNLESS the guy you're trying to chase away has it too. Then you're likely to make him even more insistent, since you might just be his idea of the perfect match. Better to double up with a back up disease/nasty trait/etc. Scolding is a great one. Never miss an opportunity to rip him for everything he does. Bossing him around is another. Demand ****, not valuable, but you know: run his ass around and be very critical and unappreciative. Let him know you're dating/talking to other guys while he's running meaningless errands for you. Find out if he has an ex that he hates or an embarrassing circumstance in his past. ALWAYS raise that and make sure to get all the details; never miss a chance to find out more. Belittle him about something that you discover really makes him squirm. Or about anything he's proud of. As soon as he contacts you to start a conversation, begin to complain and don't let up. Doesn't matter about what (but make sure to include something about him), but use the first half hour of any contact to just unload. If he tries to commiserate or help, give him the "why do you have to always try to fix everything or one up what I say?!?" And be pissed about it. Go off on a crazy rant -- make sure there is NO logic to it, just do it. Oh, and to fill in any gaps that may exist as you try to look for creative conversation pieces, talk about your exes. The details. Especially note how lousy they were as lovers, and any other deficiencies. If the ex was under-hung, bring that up often (or lie about it if he wasn't), same thing for in the sack performance -- let him figure out that the same emasculating narration will be his legacy to anyone who follows him.
In short, try to think of all the things that would drive you NUTS, then consider it from a male perspective (as mentioned above) and only let him see that part of your personality. If you showed him the other side first, don't worry -- it'll take a little more time but he'll soon enough realize that he really didn't KNOW you at first -- you were only drawing him in with your good side.
If none of that works, I'm afraid you're gonna have to shoot him. You do have guns for that purpose up there don't you?
Hope that helps. :lol:
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beemerdons
Certifiable Old Fart
El Great Dane, are you absolutely sure that's Bustanut Joker? That brute appears to have nut sacks on him. I'm jes' sayin'!!!I think if you tell this low life that you have a friend down in the States that is willing to come up and take him out he might leave you alone. Provide him with a picture of your good friend " Hitman Bustanut Joker" and I'll bet you never hear from him again!
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Joe2Lmaker
Well-known member
"Keep knockin' and you can't come in,..."
honest input?
o.k. Survival of the Species. That's my answer.
It's a powerful drive baby!
honest input?
o.k. Survival of the Species. That's my answer.
It's a powerful drive baby!
YooperDick
Well-known member
In answer to the original question, its called Genetic Predisposition. Enjoy it while you can.
old&slow
Well-known member
Barb ,,, Don't really know what the answer is ,,, But it has been my experience that:
If a Lady said ,,,"No" ,, it means Yes..
If she said ,, "Maybe" it meant No.....
And if she said ,,, "Yes" ,,, she was no lady....
Warchild
Benevolent Dictator
exskibum
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exskibum
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Hehehe . . . no. A little extrapolation in the pursuit of solutions is all. :lol:
Tell me that you who agree that'd work didn't shiver at recognizing some behaviors from the past. B)
I rest my case, Barb -- my suggested approach would even chase OM away. We aim to help here on the FJR forum.
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beemerdons
Certifiable Old Fart
Michael, exskibum is really creeping me out! Is exskibum one of our ex-wives in disquise? Can you vouch for exskibum for real? I know he's one of your Northern California cronies, but wowser: He sounded just like one of the Stanley ex-wives!
FJRGuy
FJR Rally Addict! :D
Been there, done that!
Barb,
Best solution yet! Get yerself hook'd up with someone better... or at least play the part in public! Bet I know where you could find a bunch of FJR ridin guys that'd volunteer!
btw - it's not all men or even men in general. For me a simple "it's not going to happen" works. as the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea. So unfortunately I have no insight into your pursuer's mindset.
Braenen
Well-known member
Best explanation I've heard of a lot of this (from a wise woman) is that "men just don't get it until you tell them." But it seems you're talking about being very clear, and them still not getting it.
So, while tempted to reply differently, you did ask for serious, Barb. I don't understand the phenomenon you're talking about, but it surely does exist at levels with some guys that are hard to believe. To me, once it's clear that it's not the female game of "no might mean yes", it's time to take a hike and thank her for not wasting her or my time pursuing something that isn't going to be mutually rewarding. But to answer your question, with those types, you have to be undesirable, no . . . UNDESIRABLE!!! So . . .
Herpes is a good response, UNLESS the guy you're trying to chase away has it too. Then you're likely to make him even more insistent, since you might just be his idea of the perfect match. Better to double up with a back up disease/nasty trait/etc. Scolding is a great one. Never miss an opportunity to rip him for everything he does. Bossing him around is another. Demand ****, not valuable, but you know: run his ass around and be very critical and unappreciative. Let him know you're dating/talking to other guys while he's running meaningless errands for you. Find out if he has an ex that he hates or an embarrassing circumstance in his past. ALWAYS raise that and make sure to get all the details; never miss a chance to find out more. Belittle him about something that you discover really makes him squirm. Or about anything he's proud of. As soon as he contacts you to start a conversation, begin to complain and don't let up. Doesn't matter about what (but make sure to include something about him), but use the first half hour of any contact to just unload. If he tries to commiserate or help, give him the "why do you have to always try to fix everything or one up what I say?!?" And be pissed about it. Go off on a crazy rant -- make sure there is NO logic to it, just do it. Oh, and to fill in any gaps that may exist as you try to look for creative conversation pieces, talk about your exes. The details. Especially note how lousy they were as lovers, and any other deficiencies. If the ex was under-hung, bring that up often (or lie about it if he wasn't), same thing for in the sack performance -- let him figure out that the same emasculating narration will be his legacy to anyone who follows him.
In short, try to think of all the things that would drive you NUTS, then consider it from a male perspective (as mentioned above) and only let him see that part of your personality. If you showed him the other side first, don't worry -- it'll take a little more time but he'll soon enough realize that he really didn't KNOW you at first -- you were only drawing him in with your good side.
If none of that works, I'm afraid you're gonna have to shoot him. You do have guns for that purpose up there don't you?
Hope that helps. :lol:
exskibum has clearly met my ex-wife. She eventually had to put a gun to my head to run me off. (Really...)
MEM
Well-known member
I canNOT believe he's still around !! :blink:
Move away, Barb. Far and fast - with no forwarding address.
I know... easy for me to say
Move away, Barb. Far and fast - with no forwarding address.
I know... easy for me to say
Geezer
Parsimonious Curmudgeon
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FrostBack #2 - IBA # 44620
I think you just nailed the source of the problem LOL!
Seriously Barb, if saying your not interested, repeatedly, doesn't work. Make it understandable. "**** OFF *******!! NEXT TIME I'M CALLING THE COPS"
Warchild
Benevolent Dictator
rushes
Well-known member
Which guy is it Barb?
wheatonFJR
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That seems too forward and harsh, and too American. Maybe say it "Bob and Dave style"..."Hey, ya hoser! Take your toque and get outta town, eh?".
